Hey friend, welcome to Java with Julie. I'm Julie Slattery and this is a listener

support of podcast and an outreach of authentic intimacy. Have you ever thought

about why you relate to people in the way that you do?

You know, we all have an individual way of connecting and attaching or even responding to others,

but most of us don't really understand where that comes from.

My guests today know a whole lot about why many of our relationships look the way they do.

I'm going to be talking with Kay and Mylan Yerkovich, who are the authors of the incredible book called How We Love.

Together Kay and Mylan have been helping families and couples understand the internal and

external factors driving their relationships and in today's

episode they talk about love styles the attachment styles at the center of the

book that explains so much why we do what we do in relationships.

It's really fascinating and also practical in navigating the challenges that we all face in relationship.

So grab your Java and settle in as you listen to my conversation with Kay and Mylan

Yorkovich.

Well Mylan and Kay, I've been looking forward to this conversation for a long time.

You two wrote a book called How We Love that just has never

seemed to go out of style. It's a book that I recommend often. It's a book that people will tell me that has impacted their lives.

When did you guys first write that? How long ago is that?

2006.

Okay.

And then we were able to revise it in 2018 2018 which was a gift because we could add more core patterns and they

allowed us to enlarge the content of it.

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