S19E13: The Validation Trap

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Relationships, Sexuality, Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.5 • 877 Ratings

🗓️ 19 November 2024

⏱️ 54 minutes

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Summary

There's so much pressure when dating....so much that dating becomes more about measuring up than actually finding the right partner. We're diving into one of the biggest things that got in our way – and that we see stifle so many of you too – when we let dating define our worth and make it a lot more personal than it actually is. We're discussing the mindset of being the chooser vs. being chosen, how our ego can overtake love, and ways to make the shift from needing someone to wanting to be with someone.

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