Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain, the only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach,

Tara Lowenthal.

Hello, my chickens.

It is the dog days of summer here in New York.

It's the time of year that I always fantasize about moving to some perfect weather place where

it's always 70 degrees in sunny, and it never rains, but there's no drought, right, somehow

magically.

Which is actually now that I'm talking about it, I think kind of how we think about life,

right.

We think that there's some perfect life where we can just have the good and not the bad.

Right, we do this with our jobs and with our partners and with our family and even with

ourselves, right, we want to keep what we think is good, but get rid of what we think is

bad.

And what we don't realize is that it's like an ecosystem.

Right, what do you get if there's only sun and no rain?

That's a desert.

Now, there's nothing wrong with being a desert, right.

We deserts are beautiful, wonderful, but a desert is just one kind of experience, right,

and it has its own limitations, just like a rainforest does.

You can't have lush plants and no rain, right.

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