Stevea Robbins here, and welcome to the Get It Done Guys quick and dirty tips to work less and do more.

Today's topic is how to say no when you need to, especially to your boss, your friends, and sweeties.

The quick and dirty tip is to listen deeply, acknowledge their position, and say no kindly. Josh from St. Augustine,

Florida asked, is there any productivity system that works 100% of the time? Yes, Josh. Just say no.

Too many yeses over commit us. If you say yes to more than you can handle, you'll never,

ever catch up.

Period. It can't be done. Yet, most of us have a very hard time saying no, especially to our boss. Miss my kid's soccer game because you screwed up the schedule again? Sure, boss, I'd love to.

Why do we do this? If I'm going to be in a soul-destroying codependent relationship, why would I do it with my boss? I'd choose someone I'd love to. Why do we do this? If I'm going to be in a soul-destroying codependent relationship,

why would I do it with my boss? I'd choose someone I love, like my snuggle bunny, to make me that

miserable. But a better choice is learning to say yes to yourself. Protect your boundaries. Only take on

work you can handle and say no when someone asks you to go past your limits.

Oh, I can hear what you're thinking. If I say no, I'll get fired. My family won't love me.

Other kids won't play with me. I'll die alone in a gutter smelling of booze missing several teeth.

It could happen. And if you say yes, you'll over-commit. Lose your family, lose yourself, and live alone in a cubicle smelling of mouse pads,

missing your life. Your choice.

Sure, no has real consequences. It's just that saying yes does too.

And most of us are way too scared of the consequences of no,

and not nearly scared enough of the consequences of no, and not nearly scared enough,

of the consequences of yes.

If it's your boss asking, just say this.

My plate is full.

Let's review my projects and decide what to change so I have time to add something.

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