Hello everyone, welcome here and my guest today is Susie, and she wants her dad to be more generous and thoughtful.

And what a ride. Oh, I hope you take it.

I'm going to say this, you know, the work is a way to identify and question the thoughts that cause all the suffering in your life. Welcome to the work.

So Susie, Sweetheart, we have a date, we have a date, you have a work sheet on your dad?

I do, I do. Okay, those of you new to the work. There's there's a work we use there are six questions on it. It's always free on the work

dot com and there are six questions on it and It's always free on the work.

And there are six questions on it. And Susie has answered all six questions.

So what did you fill in for number one? What is the situation? What did you write?

I'm angry with dad because he's deliberately unhelpful.

Okay, and the situation.

So we had the gardener over yesterday and they were trimming the tree and my step-mum wanted to make sure

that they trimmed enough of the tree away.

She's a very unwell and she's in a facility. And so she was on the phone and she said, you know, did they take enough and dad just said, oh, they're finished now, but they weren't finished, like they were still on the property and they could have easily come back and done some more trimming.

Okay, so he's deliberately unhelpful.

So be there now, look again.

Is it true that he's deliberately unhelpful as he talks to your step-mom on the phone and she wants to,

she wants to be sure and he responds, oh it's too late now or they're gone, whatever it was.

He's deliberately unhelpful. He could have called them back, yeah. He's deliberately unhelpful.

Isn't it true? Yes. when you think the thought, dance deliberately unhelpful.

I felt embarrassed.

Where did you feel that emotion?

Where do you feel it?

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