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This episode is hosted by psychotherapist and bestselling author Amy Morin. Now let's get into the episode.

Okay. You're listening to the Friday fix.

Every Friday, I share a quick mental strength strategy that can help fix the thoughts, feelings, and actions that can fold you back in life.

Do you worry that people are going to be mad at you? Do you pretend to agree with people because you don't dare express your opinions?

Do you allow people to hurt your feelings without speaking up? If you answered yes to any of those

questions, you've come to the right place. Today we're talking about people

pleasing and how to stop it. It's a common problem and a tough habit to break. But people

pleasing drains you of the mental strength you need to be your best. When you stop doing it,

you'll get one step closer to living your best life. Before we talk about how to stop doing

it though, let's talk about what people pleasing looks life. Before we talk about how to stop doing it, though,

let's talk about what people pleasing looks like. Sometimes it's about saying yes to every

favor or every invitation that comes your way, regardless of whether you actually want to do it.

At other times, it's about changing your behavior in hopes that people are going to like you more.

And sometimes it's about trying to appease people in hopes that people are going to like you more. And sometimes, it's about

trying to appease people in hopes that you can somehow make them feel happy. There are several

reasons why people become people pleasers. Often it goes back to childhood. If you grew up with a

parent with a short temper, you might have learned that things go smoothly when you make mom or dad happy.

Or if you grew up with a lot of fighting at home, you might go to great lengths to avoid conflict now that you're an adult.

Kids who had really strict parents might miss out on the opportunity to learn who they were as individuals.

They were so busy following orders that they never had an opportunity to learn who they were as individuals. They were so busy following orders

that they never had an opportunity to think for themselves. As an adult, they might become more

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