165: How Do I Support my Heartbroken Son?

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting

Dr. Lisa Damour/Good Trouble Productions

Kids & Family, Mental Health, Parenting, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 720 Ratings

🗓️ 9 April 2024

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Summary

A parent writes in about her 17-year-old son who is reeling from a tough breakup with his long-time girlfriend. As the teen faces the transition to college and grapples with intense sadness his parents have several questions: Should they be concerned about his reaction? How can they support him, especially when he shuts them out? And must high school sweethearts part ways before college? Dr. Lisa describes the many ways that adults can help teens cope with heartbreak including offering empathy, providing comfort, helping the teen establish healthy boundaries with the ex, and more. Reena asks if there’s any way to prevent heartbreak in teens and the conversation covers how best to help young people navigate the loss of their first love. Follow and subscribe to our YouTube channel where you can see all our latest video episodes: https://youtube.com/@asklisapodcast And follow us on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @Lisa.Damour, @ReenaNinan. Checkout Dr. Lisa’s website for more resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/ Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com

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0:00.0	Hi, I'm Rina Ninean and this is Ask Lisa, the Psychology of Parenting Podcast.
0:10.7	It's a podcast to help parents better understand their kids. Dr. Lisa DeMore, a psychologist with three
0:17.2	decades of experience, and the author of three New York Times best-selling parenting
0:21.8	books takes your questions. Both of us are moms ourselves, and we're eager to hear from you.
0:27.1	So send us your questions to Ask Lisa at Dr.LisaDemore.com. And you can join our community by
0:32.8	following us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn. The handle is Ask Lisa Podcast. And also subscribe to our
0:39.7	brand new YouTube channel, Ask Lisa Podcast. Episode 165, how do I support my heartbroken son?
0:51.8	Well, it's April for parents who don't have high school seniors, what is going on in the world of high school seniors right now with college?
1:00.0	College stuff is getting nailed down, Rina. Kids are making choices. The future is coming into focus for kids who are planning to go to college. And it's a rich and spicy time in family life and also
1:13.2	with kids. You know what's interestingly says since we've started this podcast, which was in 2020,
1:18.3	every year I feel like the college process is different because COVID factored into it,
1:22.4	then getting out of COVID. And there's always something. So I am thinking of these parents who have
1:27.1	high school seniors and
1:28.8	cannot imagine ever being at that point, which you were just a couple years ago. Oh, I was and I will
1:32.8	get you through it, Rina. I know you will. You always get us through the teen years. You're the
1:36.6	one. I want to read this letter because this also has to deal with transition and senior year.
1:42.9	Dear Dr. Lisa and Rina, my 17-year-old high school son, a high school senior, just had a really
1:48.5	hard breakup with his girlfriend.
1:50.5	They've been together since they were sophomores, and she told him that she doesn't want to
1:54.3	try to keep dating when they're in college.
1:56.6	So she feels it's best to break up now.
1:58.9	He's absolutely heartbroken.
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