Hello everyone and welcome back to part two of my episode with Amy Lloyd on Mormon Stories podcast. I'm your host John Delin. I'm here with my brilliant co host Margie Hey Margie. Hey, and we are here answering the question or telling the story of part one listening to your voice or the cost of being conditioned not to listen to your voice as a Mormon girl, Mormon young woman and a Mormon woman.

That was part one of our story with Amy Lloyd. Hey Amy, thanks for joining us. Thanks for having back in part one. We talked about Amy's Mormon upbringing, her attending BYU, her getting married relatively young, having kids relatively young and probably entering into a marriage that neither she nor her ex-husband would probably say was the best choice for them and doing that under.

Let's just say at least on Amy's part under the influence of conformity and social pressure and in some ways against maybe some of her own inner voices or inner wisdom.

So we left last episode with Amy having a couple kids eightish, nineish years into her marriage, losing her Mormon faith separate from the difficulties in her marriage and eventually making the tough decision to get divorced and become a working mom, you know, with kids in Texas and all of that entails.

So that was part one and part two is going to be covering a much needed much requested topic, which is what do you do when you are divorced from your believing Mormon spouse.

You're no longer a believer in Mormonism or a high-demand religion and yet you share children and the metaphorical tug-of-war that potentially ensues when the believer is trying to raise the kids faithful Mormon and the non-believer maybe feels a little harmed by parts of their Mormon upbringing.

And in Amy's case, I'm guessing there's going to be themes about teaching your kids to listen to their inner voice versus ignore their inner voice.

And that's where the theme from part one is probably going to come in to the parenting discussion in part two.

So that's my intro. Amy, anything you want to add?

I like it. Nope. That's good.

Okay. All right. So thanks for joining us. Check out part one. If you haven't yet, I think you'll benefit from it.

And so where we left off, you're in doubt. They were in Houston. Outside of Houston. Outside of Houston. Go Katie.

Yeah. I grew up. We didn't mention that last episode. Yeah. No, that's right.

And you get a job and you start pursuing what? Accounting with two young kids as a divorced ex Mormon. Single mom. Like.

Yep. I really quickly we talk a lot about how high-demand religions of Mormonism specifically can wreck marriages and leave women particularly in the state of being divorced and without the education or career to really help them land on their feet and how terrifying and difficult that could be.

Yeah. And last episode we talked about how lucky you were that you pursued accounting had some accounting experience.

Yes. Which enabled you at least to land on your feet a little more. Right.

Then probably the average Mormon woman who's divorced would be able to. Definitely. Yeah.

Yep. I've had friends who've had to go back to school for their bachelors and kind of start all the way over that way. So I wasn't starting completely from scratch.

I did have a really marketable degree. I had some work experience with the you know big five accounting firm under my belt.

It was you know at a date. I'd had five years where I had a break in my resume. But I it definitely could have been a lot worse.

I am very grateful that I had that part in place.

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