185: How Should My Son Deal with Trash-Talking Friends?

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting

Dr. Lisa Damour/Good Trouble Productions

Kids & Family, Mental Health, Parenting, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 720 Ratings

🗓️ 17 September 2024

⏱️ 29 minutes

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“Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting” is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges. Looking to learn more about how to boost kids’ resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Is your middle schooler caught in the whirlwind of trash-talking and competitive behavior? You’re not alone. A parent writes asking for guidance on how to handle the social dynamics that boys often face in middle school, where establishing social power can involve trash-talking and intense competition. But what happens when your child feels uncomfortable with these behaviors? Dr. Lisa offers expert advice on how parents can be sensitive to their kids’ feelings, offer empathy, and start meaningful conversations that help them navigate these tricky situations. Reena & Dr. Lisa discuss practical strategies to guide your child through this challenging phase. We’d love to hear your thoughts! How do you manage competitive behavior and social dynamics in middle school? Follow and subscribe to our YouTube channel where you can see all our latest video episodes: https://youtube.com/@asklisapodcast And follow us on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @Lisa.Damour, @ReenaNinan. Checkout Dr. Lisa’s website for more resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/ Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com Episode Keywords: boys, middle school, trash-talking, competitive behavior, social power, sensitive, parenting Show Keywords: ask lisa podcast, dr lisa damour, reena ninan, psychology, parenting, podcast, teens, tweens, parenting teens, parenting tweens, teen parenting, tween parenting, parenting tips, parenting advice, positive parenting, parenting podcast, teen behavior, tween challenges, raising tweens, raising teens, parenting hacks, parenting help, family dynamics, kids podcast, mental health, teen mental health, attachment styles, emotional intelligence

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0:00.0	Tell me a parenting issue everyone struggles with, with tweens and teens, but no one talks about.
0:06.9	Rina, I think a lot of people feel like they just don't know how to connect to their kid anymore.
0:12.3	I'm Rina Ninen and welcome to Ask Lisa, the Psychology of Parenting Podcast.
0:18.7	And I'm Dr. Lisa D'Amour.
0:20.3	We bring you science-back strategies for managing anxiety, discipline, intense emotions, and more.
0:26.6	We decode tough parenting challenges with tips that you can use right now.
0:32.0	So subscribe to Ask Lisa, the Psychology of Parenting Podcast, and join our YouTube community today. We're here to help
0:39.3	you untangle family life. Episode 185, how should my son deal with trash talking friends?
0:54.0	You know, what's interesting about this time of the school year is your friends kind of make some new friends.
0:59.0	You're seeing the social group setting in with sports and new teachers.
1:04.3	I kind of like this time of year because I feel like you can get into new groups.
1:08.7	Yeah, kids are figuring it out.
1:10.2	You know, it's all very tentative for now.
1:14.9	They've got some of the friends they hung out with. Some of the kids who were, it would change a lot over
1:18.8	the summer, right? I mean, this is a time of year, especially for those of us with middle schoolers,
1:23.8	where kids come back to school looking really different. Yeah, that's right. Or if you're
1:28.0	starting, it's all in flux. It's all in flux. Or if you're starting high school, it's also a new
1:31.4	big chapter. But what do you do if you don't like the friends that your kids might be
1:36.0	hanging out with? We got this letter. I want to read to you. Hi, Dr. Lisa. My eighth grade son is
1:40.8	dealing with the dynamic at school where the way that the boys relate to one another is mainly by ragging on each other, making competitive, somewhat nasty comments like basically you suck. I'm faster than you at track, I'm better than you at sports. Why are you even sitting here? These aren't your friends, etc. It should be noted that my son is reasonably popular and is friends with the kids who talk like
2:01.6	this. It's not like he's an outsider. I'm just trying to figure out if this is normal developmentally
2:07.2	at this age or if this is a dynamic that's particular at our school. My son is a more sensitive
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