194: How Do I Help My Daughter Get Past an Ugly Rumor?

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting

Dr. Lisa Damour/Good Trouble Productions

Kids & Family, Mental Health, Parenting, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 720 Ratings

🗓️ 19 November 2024

⏱️ 27 minutes

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“Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting” is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges. Looking to learn more about how to boost kids’ resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday. ________________ Has your teen ever been on the receiving end of an ugly rumor? In this episode, Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena dive into the challenges of middle and high school social dynamics, offering advice on supporting a daughter who’s the target of damaging gossip. From encouraging new friendships and activities to sticking up for the truth, Dr. Lisa shares valuable insights on providing support. The episode also addresses how to help tweens and teens maintain a sense of perspective during painful times, when to involve the school, and what to do with gossip about other kids in the community. We want to hear from you! How have you helped your child handle rumors or social challenges? Follow and subscribe to our YouTube channel where you can see all our latest video episodes: https://youtube.com/@asklisapodcast And follow us on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @Lisa.Damour, @ReenaNinan. Checkout Dr. Lisa’s website for more resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/ Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com ________________ Episode Keywords: rumors, relational aggression, middle school, high school, support, new friends, activities, truth, distraction, adult perspective, involvement, school Show Keywords: ask lisa podcast, dr lisa damour, reena ninan, psychology, parenting, podcast, teens, tweens, parenting teens, parenting tweens, teen parenting, tween parenting, parenting tips, parenting advice, positive parenting, parenting podcast, teen behavior, tween challenges, raising tweens, raising teens, parenting hacks, parenting help, family dynamics, kids podcast, mental health, teen mental health, attachment styles, emotional intelligence

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0:00.0	Tell me a parenting issue everyone struggles with, with tweens and teens, but no one talks about.
0:07.0	Rina, I think a lot of people feel like they just don't know how to connect to their kid anymore.
0:12.0	I'm Rina Ninen and welcome to Ask Lisa, the Psychology of Parenting Podcast.
0:18.0	And I'm Dr. Lisa DeMore.
0:20.0	We bring you science-back strategies for managing anxiety, discipline, intense emotions, and more.
0:26.6	We decode tough parenting challenges with tips that you can use right now.
0:32.0	So subscribe to Ask Lisa, the Psychology of Parenting Podcast, and join our YouTube community today. We're here to help
0:39.3	you untangle family life. Episode 194, how do I help my daughter get past an ugly rumor?
0:54.0	All right, today's episode is bringing me back to my middle school years.
0:57.9	I have to tell you, why is it that kids, I feel, in middle school, would just make up stuff that could be so damaging even if it's not true?
1:07.3	The why is an important one.
1:09.5	It probably has to do with social power. You know, the what of it,
1:13.2	you know, we call this relational aggression as opposed to physical aggression. And it's where kids
1:18.9	use social forces to hurt one another. And relational aggression tends to take a couple forms.
1:27.1	One is excluding icing kids out,
1:29.6	and the other is spreading rumors about them. I want to get right to this letter. Dear Dr. Lisa,
1:35.7	a group of popular girls who used to be my ninth grade daughter's friends have turned on her
1:40.7	and are spreading an ugly rumor that she gave blow jobs to two boys from
1:45.4	another school on the same night. The quote, Queen B in the group has a lot of social power,
1:51.5	and so no one will stand up for my daughter, even though she has former friends who know
1:56.2	the rumor isn't true. My daughter's now isolated at school, has a terrible but untrue reputation and is
2:02.9	devastated. She doesn't want to switch schools and nothing I'm doing seems to help her. Can you please
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