204: How Do I Help My Kid Develop a Work Ethic?

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting

Dr. Lisa Damour/Good Trouble Productions

Kids & Family, Mental Health, Parenting, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 720 Ratings

🗓️ 28 January 2025

⏱️ 31 minutes

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“Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting” is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges. Looking to learn more about how to boost kids’ resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday. ________________ How can parents nurture a strong work ethic in their kids? In this episode, Dr. Lisa and Reena explore practical strategies for fostering intrinsic motivation, responsibility, and a willingness to take on chores. They discuss how to balance structure with warmth, link privileges to responsibilities, and how to allow kids to experience the natural consequences of their choices. Packed with insights on parenting, motivation, and cultivating accountability, this episode offers tools to help teens build skills that last a lifetime—plus a special announcement about the revised edition of Lisa’s book, Untangled. We want to hear from you! What strategies have worked for you in teaching your kids responsibility and a strong work ethic? Follow and subscribe to our YouTube channel where you can see all our latest video episodes: https://youtube.com/@asklisapodcast And follow us on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @Lisa.Damour, @ReenaNinan. Checkout Dr. Lisa’s website for more resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/ Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com ________________ Episode Keywords: work ethic, motivation, parenting, chores, responsibility, intrinsic motivation, structure, warmth, consequences Show Keywords: ask lisa podcast, dr lisa damour, reena ninan, psychology, parenting, podcast, teens, tweens, parenting teens, parenting tweens, teen parenting, tween parenting, parenting tips, parenting advice, positive parenting, parenting podcast, teen behavior, tween challenges, raising tweens, raising teens, parenting hacks, parenting help, family dynamics, kids podcast, mental health, teen mental health, attachment styles, emotional intelligence

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0:00.0	Tell me a parenting issue everyone struggles with, with tweens and teens, but no one talks about.
0:06.9	Rina, I think a lot of people feel like they just don't know how to connect to their kid anymore.
0:12.3	I'm Rina Ninen and welcome to Ask Lisa, the Psychology of Parenting Podcast.
0:18.7	And I'm Dr. Lisa D'Amour.
0:20.3	We bring you science-back strategies for managing anxiety, discipline, intense emotions, and more.
0:26.6	We decode tough parenting challenges with tips that you can use right now.
0:32.0	So subscribe to Ask Lisa, the Psychology of Parenting Podcast, and join our YouTube community today. We're here to help
0:39.3	you untangle family life. Episode 204, how do I help my kid develop a work ethic?
0:54.0	You know, we're talking about work ethics today, which I'm very excited about because I feel like I did it all wrong, Lisa.
1:00.5	And you know, working very closely with me, I am the creative and you and our business development head, Shabir is always like on me to like, okay, did you do this? Did you do this?
1:12.1	You know, like, so, yeah, I...
1:14.6	I'm going to stop you right there.
1:18.0	Rina, you are a total workhorse, a total workhorse.
1:22.5	Thank you. It doesn't feel that way. I will, though. I'll give you, organization is not your, it's not my thing. Strong suit. It's not your strongest suit. But actually, like, right out of the gate, let's like make a distinction between capacity for work, willingness to work, drive to work. Yeah. And being organized. Those are two different things. Yeah. But you're plenty organized as well. Yeah, but I just think,
1:46.3	you know, yeah, I just wish I had learned early on like these things. But I also would tell you,
1:53.1	and maybe it's just me making up for my my inabilities here, that sometimes that not being
1:59.2	organized is what helps me be more creative because I don't feel
2:02.5	the pressure of being stuck in monotony of it all, right?
2:05.6	Whereas I can be kind of like rigid and like organization is my strong suit, but I know
2:13.1	it undermines sometimes my inventiveness.
2:15.9	So like minds are amazing, right? And do all sorts of things
2:19.5	and have all sorts of strengths and capacities. But I think this is, this work ethic thing is
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