208: What Should I Do When Other Parents Host Wild Parties?

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting

Dr. Lisa Damour/Good Trouble Productions

Kids & Family, Mental Health, Parenting, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 720 Ratings

🗓️ 25 February 2025

⏱️ 28 minutes

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“Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting” is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges. Looking to learn more about how to boost kids’ resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday. ________________ Your teen wants to go to a party—but what if there’s drinking? And what if the cops show up? In this episode, Lisa and Reena take on the tough realities of teenage parties, underage drinking, and how parents can navigate these high-stakes situations. Should you call the host parents? What happens if the police arrive? Could your teen get arrested? Lisa shares how to have open, judgment-free conversations so your child feels safe coming to you—no matter what. Plus, practical strategies to help teens think ahead, make smart choices, and handle peer pressure in the moment. Don’t miss this essential conversation that every parent of a tween or teen needs to hear. Follow and subscribe to our YouTube channel where you can see all our latest video episodes: https://youtube.com/@asklisapodcast And follow us on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @Lisa.Damour, @ReenaNinan. Checkout Dr. Lisa’s website for more resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/ Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com ________________ Episode Keywords: teen parties, underage drinking, parenting teens, teen safety, parent liability, hot cognition, cold cognition, teen relationships, school involvement, party rules, peer pressure, social hosting laws Show Keywords: ask lisa podcast, dr lisa damour, reena ninan, psychology, parenting, podcast, teens, tweens, parenting teens, parenting tweens, teen parenting, tween parenting, parenting tips, parenting advice, positive parenting, parenting podcast, teen behavior, tween challenges, raising tweens, raising teens, parenting hacks, parenting help, family dynamics, kids podcast, mental health, teen mental health, attachment styles, emotional intelligence

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0:00.0	Tell me a parenting issue everyone struggles with, with tweens and teens, but no one talks about.
0:07.0	Rina, I think a lot of people feel like they just don't know how to connect to their kid anymore.
0:12.0	I'm Rina Ninen and welcome to Ask Lisa, the Psychology of Parenting Podcast.
0:18.0	And I'm Dr. Lisa DeMore.
0:20.0	We bring you science-back strategies for managing anxiety, discipline, intense emotions, and more.
0:26.6	We decode tough parenting challenges with tips that you can use right now.
0:32.0	So subscribe to Ask Lisa, the Psychology of Parenting Podcast, and join our YouTube community today.
0:38.1	We're here to help you untangle family life.
0:43.5	Episode 208, what should I do when other parents host wild parties?
1:01.4	Okay, this is a topic that I feel comes up often if you have high school kids, and I'm glad we're touching it.
1:11.6	Yeah, no, it's a tricky one. This is a tricky one. And sometimes even late middle school kids. I hate to say it. Yeah, right. It could go across younger grades than one might expect. I want to get right into this letter for you.
1:13.6	Hi, Dr. Lisa.
1:14.6	I'm also a licensed clinical psychologist, and I'm thrilled that a colleague recommended your books to me.
1:19.6	I discovered your podcast and you are such a gem.
1:22.6	Here's my question for you.
1:23.6	What are your thoughts on parties being thrown by the parents of teenagers during which kids aren't just sneaking alcohol in, but parents are providing it? So far, I've elected just keep my
1:33.3	mouth shut, and I try to just talk to my own kids as much as possible, and I've even shared with
1:38.4	them about hot and cold cognition. My teen came home from what we thought was a parent-supervised New Year's Eve party and was uncomfortable and upset about the number of kids drinking, vaping, and engaging in overtly sexual behavior.
1:51.9	Since parents aren't terribly receptive, do you feel like schools need to do a better job of addressing these concerns?
1:58.4	What else might be done to keep kids safe?
2:02.3	As always, thanks for your wise and very reasonable insights and recommendations. That's a really nice letter.
2:08.3	It is a great letter. Now tell me, like, what do you give me your take on this? And I love that
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