216: How Do We Get Kids to Stop Fat Shaming?

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting

Dr. Lisa Damour/Good Trouble Productions

Kids & Family, Mental Health, Parenting, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 720 Ratings

🗓️ 22 April 2025

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

Are your kids participating in or experiencing fat shaming at school or online? Dr. Lisa and Reena dive deep into the disturbing trend of weight-based bullying among teens. Discover why friends are targeting each other, how social media normalizes harmful body-shaming behaviors, and learn critical strategies that parents can use to support their children. This episode provides essential guidance for navigating body image conversations and protecting teens' mental health. Whether your child might be a victim, bystander, or unknowingly participating in these harmful dynamics, this podcast offers compassionate, actionable advice for families. We want to hear from you! Have you witnessed fat shaming among teens, and how have you addressed it? ________________ “Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting” is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges. Looking to learn more about how to boost kids’ resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Check out our Ask Lisa Podcast Playlists. Binge specific topics like Raising Sons, Staying Connected to Your Teen: https://www.youtube.com/@asklisapodcast/playlists ________________ Episode Keywords: body shaming, fat shaming, bullying, social media, weight, tiktok, adolescence, body image, teen insecurities, weight-based victimization, adolescent psychology Show Keywords: ask lisa podcast, dr lisa damour, reena ninan, psychology, parenting, podcast, teens, tweens, parenting teens, parenting tweens, teen parenting, tween parenting, parenting tips, parenting advice, positive parenting, parenting podcast, teen behavior, tween challenges, raising tweens, raising teens, parenting hacks, parenting help, family dynamics, kids podcast, mental health, teen mental health, attachment styles, emotional intelligence

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0:00.0	Tell me a parenting issue everyone struggles with, with tweens and teens, but no one talks about.
0:06.9	Rina, I think a lot of people feel like they just don't know how to connect to their kid anymore.
0:12.3	I'm Rina Ninen and welcome to Ask Lisa, the Psychology of Parenting Podcast.
0:18.6	And I'm Dr. Lisa D'Amour.
0:20.3	We bring you science-back strategies for managing anxiety, discipline, intense emotions, and more.
0:26.6	We decode tough parenting challenges with tips that you can use right now.
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0:39.3	you untangle family life. Episode 216. How do we get kids to stop fat shaming?
1:03.7	I tell you, I don't know if I'm in perimenopause or not, but this sort of one time I feel like I've just gained 20 pounds, like I don't know what it is.
1:08.4	My new thing, though, I put in warm water, flax seeds and mix it and drink it. Do you grind them up?
1:09.3	It's ground.
1:10.0	Yeah, they have to be ground. Otherwise, you get none of the benefits. They just go right through your it. Do you grind them up? It's ground. Yeah, they have to be ground.
1:10.9	Otherwise, you get none of the benefits. They just go right through your system. So you know about this.
1:14.8	Oh yeah. I'm a big fan of flax seeds. But I do. I use them in my smoothies. I put them in my
1:19.2	smoothies. Okay. Yeah, you are a big smoothie. You do love your smoothies. But I'm so glad we're talking about this episode because it's talking about fat shaming. But sometimes I don't realize I am talking about my weight and things. And I don't realize maybe that affects my children in how they see it. Right? So I want to get to this letter and there's so much I want to break down. Hi, Dr. Lisa and Rina. I am the director of counseling at a girl's school, working specifically with upper school girls.
1:49.5	We're noticing an increasing trend of fat-shaming language, which seems to have become normalized among teens. The, quote, big back trend on TikTok is huge. We also hear about girls openly calling each
1:56.4	other, quote, fatty or pig, et cetera, when around food. This is highly concerning. And I've had multiple
2:02.8	girls come into my office to share how painful it is for them. Even when they speak up to tell
2:07.7	the offending speakers this, they're not taken seriously because this trend has become so widespread.
2:13.3	I would love to hear you address this topic. Parents, schools, and also kids need some guidance on how to grow through this trend.
2:21.3	Thank you.
2:22.4	Okay, I had no idea.
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