I used to drown in problems because I was trying to solve everything at once.

Then I changed how I work and it completely transformed my life.

Here are three steps that if you follow, can do the same for you.

The first step is that you have to stop solving other people's problems.

Okay, one of the most common traps is trying to solve everything for everyone.

And I get it because it feels like helping.

But in reality, what it does is it creates dependency, because then that person is dependent

on you rather than themselves to solve their problems in the future.

And so if you're always jumping into fix things for all the people around you, whether

it's your family, whether it's your team, they will never develop problem solving skills and you become the bottleneck.

I see this all the time with people surrounding me and within myself.

Back when I was younger and I lived in a household and my mother was an alcoholic and I was

constantly trying to solve her alcohol problem for her. I was taking away the bottles. I was hiding stuff from her. I was driving trying to solve her alcohol problem for her.

I was taking away the bottles.

I was hiding stuff from her.

I was driving her to work.

I was trying to solve the problem and not allowing her to solve it.

And part of that is because if you try to solve the problem from somebody,

you take away some of the pain that they feel by having the problem.

And so because of that,

they're less likely to want to change.

The mindset shift to make here is to understand that when you solve problems for somebody,

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