The other day my husband turned to me and said,

Doesn't it seem like we're making this big decision fast, maybe too fast,

feels a little bit like a whirlwind? I didn't blame him for asking. I had the same thought sometimes

because when I am making big decisions I often sort of feel like I'm half waiting for a grown up to come around and tell me if I'm allowed to do it or if it's a bad idea.

But the reason I've created so many incredible outcomes in my life

is that I know how to be decisive and make decisions fast. And that is the opposite

of what women are socialized to do. So in this episode I'm going to share the thoughts that allow me to move fast and move

big and the returns that that has created in my life.

And I'm going to tell you about that big decision that we recently made and how I used my set of decision

thoughts to make it easy. So let's get into it.

Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. I'm your host Kara Lowenthile, master certified coach,

and founder of the School of New Feminist Thop.

I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety,

turn up your confidence,

and create a life on your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live.

Let's go.

Okay, so let's talk about how most women think about decisions first, because I want you to really listen and see where this resonates with you.

Women are socialized to be very wary about making decisions or taking risks.

First, we're socialized to believe that our job is to be a

good girl, which means following instructions, behaving nicely, doing what we are

told. We are conditioned to seek and rely on external authority and approval to know that we're doing it right or that we're safe.

And historically this was literally the case.

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