373: What’s Wrong with a Reward?

Take a Break from Drinking

Rachel Hart

Alcohol, Lifecoach, Alcoholicsanonymous, Self-improvement, Hungover, Society & Culture, Smartrecovery, Drinking, Cognitivebehavioraltherapy, Education, Cbt, 12steps, Sobriety, Drunk, Recovery, Personal Journals

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🗓️ 19 March 2024

⏱️ 10 minutes

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Summary

Pouring a drink at the end of the day can be a treat. But it can easily sabotage your goal of changing your relationship with alcohol. Especially if you have a love-hate relationship with your desire for rewards.

This episode will help you stop framing the reward you want as good or bad. Instead, you’ll learn why it’s important to view the desire for a drink as neutral, and how that can help you tap into the inner workings of the habit.

Discover the real problem when it comes to wanting to reward yourself at the end of the day, and why a drink might actually be a mismatch for what you truly need.

Get the full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/373

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0:00.0	You are listening to the Take a Break Podcast with Rachel Hart, episode 373.
0:06.8	Whether you want to drink less or stop drinking, this podcast will help you change the habit
0:12.0	from the inside out.
0:13.5	We're challenging conventional wisdom about why people drink
0:17.0	and why it can be hard to resist temptation.
0:20.0	No labels, no judgment, just practical tools to take control of your desire and stop worrying about your drinking.
0:28.0	Now here's your host Rachel Hart.
0:31.0	All right everybody today. We're talking about the question, what's so wrong with
0:36.6	wanting a reward? This question came up recently inside the membership and I
0:41.6	answered it there but I really wanted to answer it on the
0:43.6	podcast as well because I know a lot of you think about this sometimes.
0:48.6	When you're trying to drink less or stop drinking or just have a healthy
0:51.8	relationship with alcohol, you might find yourself when you're saying no,
0:56.5	wondering the same thing. Why is it so bad to want a reward? I certainly used to ask myself this question all the time. My goal in life was not to be a monk. I didn't want an existence without pleasures. In fact, when I thought about a life without many of my go-to rewards, which for a long time those
1:16.4	rewards were alcohol, cigarettes, sugar, it started me down the path of, God, why am I even saying no?
1:25.0	We only live once, am I really supposed to live a life without any rewards or any pleasure?
1:31.0	That's not what I want.
1:33.0	But I hope if you are a listener to the podcast,
1:35.4	you know by now, this is not the goal.
1:38.2	A life without pleasure is not what we're aiming for.
1:41.6	The goal is not to be so physically healthy that it trumps all pleasures that we can get from our environment.
1:47.6	The goal is to feel like your life isn't being run by chasing after rewards. The goal is to feel in control. The goal is
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