Have you ever been struck with deep envy or anxiety when you see someone accomplish something you

want? Or have you ever felt disappointed to see someone else succeed, even though rationally you

might know and like them and want them to do well? So many women and other marginalized people

have a deep unconscious belief that we must be the best at whatever we're doing and that if we are anything

less than the best, we are failing. And this not only makes you feel unsupportive of others,

but it makes you feel bad about yourself, both for being unsupportive of others, but also if you

aren't always acclaimed by everyone around you as the very best, which is stressful and sometimes actually paralyzes us

from doing anything at all. So today I want to talk about why we have this belief from a historical

and socialization perspective and some thought hacks that you can use to start to heal this pattern.

Let's get into it. Welcome to unfuck your brain.

I'm your host Kara Lowentile, master certified coach and founder of the School of New

Feminist Thought.

I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a life on

your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live.

Let's go. So the other day, I was watching

a Disney movie. Not what you would expect to hear. I know. I'm not usually a huge Disney fan,

but not here to yuck anyone's yum, just not usually my style. But I was on a plane, and the plane

suggested that I watch a movie about the first woman to swim the English channel.

So I did, because, you know, who am I to disagree with JetBlue and what its movie screen tells me to do?

So if you don't know the story, the first woman to swim the English channel was Gertrude Ederley.

She was an American woman and she swam the channel at 20 years old after only five other people had done it who were all men.

And she goes by Trudy, so I'm going to be calling her that in this episode.

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