Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain.

I'm your host, Cara Lowenthal, master-certified coach, and founder of the School of New Feminist Thub.

I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a life on your own terms, one that you're

truly excited to live. Let's go.

Hi, Susan. Welcome back to the show. Hi, Kara. I'm delighted to be back. Tell everybody,

before we get into it, tell them who you are. Who are you? What do you do?

I'm Susan Hyatt. I'm a master certified life coach, author, speaker, and community builder.

And not all of you can see this if you're listening to the podcast, but Susan's shirt matches her chair.

She's got like a fuchsia chair and then a fuchsia shirt and then a blue blazer. And it's

just like extremely well coordinated. I'm very impressed. That was a happy accident. Most of my wardrobe

has this color in it. So I'm often matching my chair on accident. Yeah. Someone told me I was matching my,

I just hosted a mastermind in my house and they were like, oh, you're matching your, your, you're like decor. And I was like, yeah, because I have the same colors I like and

everything. It's all the same. Right. So Susan was on the show last in March 2022. We talked

about women's invisible workload. And I wanted to talk about, I don't know if it's related. I feel like

it's sort of related in the sense that women become, I feel like, more and more aware of that invisible workload as they get older, as they have kids, as they start taking up more responsibility at work. And then I think sometimes our people's reaction to that is to sort of be like, fuck this noise. I'm doing something different, right? Like, I really want to just

shake up my life. And so I wanted to have you back on again to kind of talk about this topic

of making like unexpected, bold kind of moves in midlife because I feel like women are so socialized

to think that it's like you get married and you have kids, then you're a a mom and then you just sort of like fade into irrelevance and obsolescence when in fact you know that like women, especially like postmenopausal women, post child wearing women if they are if they are women who have children. Obviously not everybody does.

Like have some of the highest happiness and life satisfaction ratings that are doing

some of the most cool shit, we just don't really talk about it. So I'd love to hear, like,

let's start with the personal. What is an unexpected bold move that you made in your life more

kind of towards middle age? Like, what was it? How did you implement it? What was your thinking

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