400: When People Give You a Hard Time About Not Drinking
Take a Break from Drinking
Rachel Hart
4.8 • 2.7K Ratings
🗓️ 19 November 2024
⏱️ 28 minutes
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Summary
You’ve been there: You’re with friends, and you’re doing your best not to drink (or stop after one), and suddenly you’re met with resistance. A lot of feelings bubble up. What do you do next?
It can be challenging to say no in certain situations, and setting rules or restrictions isn’t going to help. Instead, you must learn to manage those feelings that arise to change your relationship with alcohol.
Listen in to learn how to weather someone’s disappointment so you can be your authentic self, and why keeping a commitment to not drinking is less about being strong and more about allowing yourself to feel uncomfortable sensations.
Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/
Discover alternative approaches to drinking less inside our membership program, Take a Break: https://rachelhart.com/tab/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://rachelhart.com/400
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| 0:00.0 | Have you ever ordered a club soda and had the person you were with give you a hard time? |
| 0:05.0 | Or maybe you casually mention that you're going to skip drinks tonight or not have another round |
| 0:09.9 | and someone makes it their mission to change your mind? |
| 0:13.4 | This is episode 400 and I'm going to talk about the skill you need to handle these moments |
| 0:18.2 | and keep your commitment. |
| 0:21.1 | Whether you want to drink less or stop drinking, this podcast will help you change the |
| 0:26.1 | habit from the inside out. We're challenging conventional wisdom about why people drink |
| 0:31.5 | and why it can be hard to resist temptation. No labels, no judgment, just practical tools to take control of your desire |
| 0:40.0 | and stop worrying about your drinking. Now here's your host, Rachel Hart. |
| 0:49.5 | The decisions you make around drinking should be personal decisions, but sometimes it can feel like |
| 0:56.2 | a whole lot of people are weighing in. This includes people who want you to join them for a drink |
| 1:01.6 | and people who want you to drink less or stop. And when people weigh in, it can start to feel like |
| 1:08.1 | these very personal choices aren't that personal at all. So in this episode, |
| 1:13.6 | I'm talking about what to do when people are disappointed that either you're not drinking or you're |
| 1:19.6 | not joining them for another round and why learning to manage what comes up for you when this happens |
| 1:24.8 | is a really important piece of changing your overall relationship |
| 1:28.8 | with alcohol. So I always say no matter your goal when it comes to drinking, maybe you want to |
| 1:34.6 | drink less, maybe you want to experiment with alcohol-free periods, maybe you want to stop |
| 1:38.9 | altogether, whatever your goal is, your ability to succeed has a lot less to do with willpower and a lot more to do with identifying and changing the unconscious associations your brain has with alcohol. |
| 1:53.4 | This is a piece of the puzzle that so often is overlooked. I overlooked this for the longest time and is why I spent years and years struggling. |
| 2:03.0 | Now, I will say dealing with other people's disappointment comes up most frequently with |
| 2:08.2 | two of the drink archetypes. First is a connector, which is when your brain associates alcohol |
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