56: Dangerously in Love feat. Nick Viall

Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

Sexuality, Society & Culture, Relationships, Health & Fitness

5 • 5.5K Ratings

🗓️ 11 January 2023

⏱️ 53 minutes

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Summary

This week's question is : What does it mean to be safe in a relationship? Safety in a relationship looks different for everyone.

Our starring guest this week Nick Viall and I talked about a lot, but underneath it, I think this is the core of it… 1) How love hasn’t been safe in the past and 2) how he’s redefining safety within in his new relationship: one that has external threats in the form of public opinion because that’s what fortunately unfortunately happens when two people attempt to share one life"

And now Nick is redefining what safety in a relationship means to him. Which leads to asking you “What does romantic safety mean to you?” “Any aha moments after listening to this episode?”

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0:00.0	She moved to LA for me, but obviously making friends is important, and so she met some great group of friends,
0:08.1	lover of friends, you know, and you could tell that she was really enjoying her friends, but also like,
0:12.8	we were, we were getting less quality time. So instead I was like,
0:16.5	all right, I'm really, I'm feeling insecure about this, and I'd really like to talk to you about it, and I recognize
0:22.5	I might be a little sensitive about this, so I acknowledge that too.
0:28.0	My current relationship or a feeling that I value the most in any relationship, and especially this one, is safety.
0:35.2	I love feeling safe in my relationship, and to me, you know, safety means the ability to communicate with my partner
0:43.0	about insecurities and frustrations without the fear of being judged for them, or criticize, or have them weaponized against you,
0:51.5	and for in future fights.
0:53.2	You were single for a long time.
0:55.5	Yeah, most of my 30s. I mean, was that weaponized against you a bunch?
0:59.5	Oh, yeah. I mean, before I met Nali, it was like, who are you to give relationship advice?
1:03.1	You've been single forever, and once in a while I'll hear that from someone who's not paying close attention to my personal life,
1:07.5	or, and now, or might be things about my relationship that people might not like, or whatever, but yeah,
1:13.3	there are people are always trying to, you know.
1:15.5	Welcome to season two of Lovers and Friends of Podcasts. Now, what makes this week a new season versus last week?
1:34.5	Honestly, not all that much.
1:36.5	This is still a podcast about intimacy that is led by personal stories, grounded with research, and designed to inspire discussions in your own intimate lives.
1:44.5	Meaning, if you don't hear some things that make you want to share the episode with some people in your in-circle,
1:50.5	we're not doing our job around these parts.
1:53.5	So that hasn't changed, but what has changed is the feeling and the flow that I want to ooze through our time together.
2:00.5	And there really is no better way than I can explain this feeling than this excerpt from an episode that I actually shot today,
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