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Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

59: Celibutt...Good Lord It's Hard Ft Stephan Speaks

Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

Sexuality, Society & Culture, Relationships, Health & Fitness

55.5K Ratings

🗓️ 1 February 2023

⏱️ 46 minutes

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Summary

Celibacy, abstinence, sex strike, sexlessness, dry spell ….call it what you may but we can all agree is challenging.

This week we are joined by Stephan Speaks- one of the most popular voices in the relationship education space. Stephan has devoted himself to a life of celibacy on more than one occasion: first run with the intention to connect with God, second to connect with his God-given purpose and now he finds himself conflicted between looking for the clarity that celibacy seemed to give him before and longing for the intimacy he desires as a healthy, single, eligible bachelor.

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Transcript

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0:00.0

So walk me through your psyche right now of like celibacy.

0:04.0

For a long time, I wasn't even willing to say I'm off that train.

0:08.4

And even now, like even when you asked me earlier, I'm like,

0:10.8

I'm conflicted, I'm kind of in the middle.

0:13.0

So I'm never completely rejecting being absent.

0:18.4

I just know that right now it's a struggle like it's never been before.

0:22.5

So I think that's the huge difference between how I'm walking it out now

0:25.8

and why it still remains more of a conflict now.

0:28.3

Compared to then, I was like, I'm gonna lock myself in this room.

0:30.9

I'm not going anywhere.

0:32.3

That's it, because I knew the minute I step outside, something might happen.

0:49.7

Celibacy, abstinence, or as I recently discussed on a YouTube video on my main channel,

0:55.6

sex strikes.

0:57.2

Women, you all bring access to sex.

0:59.8

So if you want to have a serious relationship, you're trying to build something with somebody

1:04.0

and you're not giving them sex, they can get it somewhere else.

1:07.2

Interestingly, as someone who talks about sex for a living, I find myself talking about

1:11.2

not having sex a whole lot too.

1:13.9

And even like right now, I'm in currently in a season where I'm like,

1:16.8

I really don't give a fuck about fucking.

1:19.7

Remember being in a space where I thought like I would never have sex again.

1:24.8

I think people would be really disappointed to hear currently about our sex life.

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