Welcome to this week's episode of the Modern Mentor podcast. I'm your host, Rachel Cook.

Today's episode is all about turning rejection into big opportunity. Rejection is a part of life,

and it's a punch in the gut when it happens. But let's talk about how you can use the experience

to your unique advantage.

My dad has this adorable habit of throwing his back out.

It happens a few times he hear laying him up and leaving him in agony.

So when he called me last week to report his latest dalliance with back pain,

I attempted to brighten his day with some silver-lining thinking.

Well, I said, at least you're not missing out on anything this time around. Your whole world is in quarantine. He responded with a

growl, which led emotionally intelligent me, to conclude that maybe he just wasn't in the mood

for some silver linings. Sometimes you just want a stew in self-pity. But sometimes the silver lining is the

thing. And I stand on the side of insisting that something that may feel painful in the moment

can actually be a good thing, or at least a not-so-catastrophic one. And rejection is one of those

things. Rejection, not getting the job, not getting support for your idea, not getting the raise,

it leaves a gaping maw of a wound when it happens.

And that's not just in your mind.

There is scientific research that shows we may experience the pain of rejection as real physical pain.

But if you can lick your wounds efficiently, there really is good to be found in rejection.

You just need to harness its power and use it to your advantage.

So let's talk about how you can do this.

First, separate you from the thing you wanted.

There's this expression I love that goes,

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