And we sat down in his office and he basically said

after three IUIs the chances of success significantly decrease.

So I think the best option for you is IVF.

I'm literally being told that like I have no other options. One of the scariest things

that I could ever imagine like going on that journey is about to happen like I'm gonna have to step into something that like

I did not choose to step into and it's a lot of information that's coming at me and I haven't even had time to process that I just had a chemical pregnancy.

It's just awful. It was really awful.

There are a lot of stats out there on fertility issues and I mean

of course there would be because the healthcare system has money for things they can stand to make money off of but anyways

in preparation of this episode I combed through a lot of studies and here's one stat that really stood out to me.

For women in their 30s one in five will experience problems conceiving their first child and I felt this because not only did I feel this as someone who had kids in their 30s

but I hear this almost daily from the lived experiences from friends and family who are in the reality of being that one out of five.

For example, Deja Riley are starring guests on this episode. Now I'm gonna be honest.

Her story treads a line of being incredibly inspiring and immensely triggering and for a long time

I shied away from conversations about fertility all together because of this but as the saying goes when you learn better and you know better

you do better and I have been learning a heck of a lot about

fertility and infertility and pregnancy in the past few months and so I felt the time was right for us to tackle this

conversation together on this episode of

According to the US Department of Health and Human Services about 9% of men and about 11% of women of reproductive age in the US have experienced fertility issues.

In one third of these issues it is the sperm that is the problem. In another third it is hard to determine where the issue actually lies and the final

third is because the determine there is an issue with the woman and I wanted to start this episode with this stat in particular

because often the burden of this problem and the shame of it is left on women but the numbers don't lie.

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