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The Art of Charm

726: 5 Hacks to Improve Your Listening | Q&A w/ Oscar Trimboli

The Art of Charm

http://www.TheArtOfCharm.com

Business, Health & Fitness, Education

4.711K Ratings

🗓️ 22 October 2018

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Summary

Many of us take listening for granted because we do it all day every day, but did you know there are multiple layers to listening and many of us only focus on one of them - so what does it mean to listen in color versus black and white, how can you vastly improve your listening skills with a few tips you can start using today, and why is effective listening such a powerful skill to have? What to Listen For How can you use silence in conversation to improve your listening skills? What are the four villains of listening and how can you avoid becoming each one? What is the 125-400 rule and why is it so important when it comes to effective communication? What tips can you implement today to become a better listener at work and at home? How can you use body language to improve your listening ability? What does listening for patterns in what people say teach you about what’s important to them? What is the difference between listening with your head and listening with your heart? What are the five levels of listening and which one do 86% of people zero in on? The one question you can use at any networking event to connect with anyone Listening is the most important skill we can develop as humans because we primarily communicate using spoken language. In addition, one could argue the only reason we have made it this far as a species is our ability to work together in large groups, so where would we be if we never developed language and therefore the ability to listen to and understand what others want us to know? Technology has since replaced many of the reasons we initially developed and used spoken language for (oral history, traditions, business, transactions, etc), but it is still the most effective method we have to build deep meaningful relationships with our fellow humans. Also, because of our increasing reliance on technology, attentive listening (aka not getting distracted by our mobile devices every time we hear something vibrate) is not a skill that is being adequately cultivated in the current and subsequent generations. It’s time to change that. A Word From Our Sponsors Great protection. Fair prices. Easy to use. SimpliSafe is the right way to protect your home. Go today to SimpliSafe.com/AOC to get your system today! When it comes to growing your business, PayPal is your payments partner for today and tomorrow. Visit PayPal.com/Growth to set up a business account today Crafted with an Unbreakable Shell. Free Shipping + Guaranteed for Life. Unbreakable. Visit awaytravel.com/charm to get $20 off with promo code: CHARM. Browse the largest selection of audiobooks anywhere with Audible. Start your 30-day trial today audible.com/charm or text ‘CHARM’ to 500500 – and get your first audiobook for free. Resources from this Episode Oscar Trimboli Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Twitter

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0:00.0

Welcome to the Art of John Park House, Tom Johnny.

0:13.1

And I'm AJ and we're glad you joined us here for our weekly show where we share over

0:18.0

a decade of coaching experience to teach you the social skills you didn't get in school.

0:23.1

If you're a new listener, we run live training programs in LA and we just started some online

0:28.6

programs to help everyday people improve their social skills.

0:32.4

Check us out at theartacharm.com for more.

0:35.6

And each month we cover a theme directly from our bootcamp program so you can get an insider's

0:41.0

view of what we do.

0:42.8

This month we've been exploring the science of connection from the basic levels of communication

0:47.6

to the importance of working hard at friendships as an adult.

0:51.5

And we even went deep with seven archetypes of empathy that are the superpowers to connection.

0:56.7

And hey, we all need to understand how to connect whether we're looking to date or

1:00.6

trying to move up in our careers.

1:02.4

So today we got a handful of your questions with us and we're going to share them with

1:06.1

Oscar Trimboly.

1:07.1

And he's joining us from way over in Sydney, Australia and he shares some great advice and exercises

1:12.2

to help us become better listeners.

1:14.4

Wait, what was that, Johnny?

1:16.2

Yep, listening is a skill we often overlook as something that's easy to do and something

1:21.2

we think we're good at.

1:22.6

But that's just not the case and working at it and exercising these skills will improve

1:26.9

conversation and transform the way we connect with people.

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