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The Art of Charm

742: The Hidden Power of Relationships

The Art of Charm

http://www.TheArtOfCharm.com

Business, Health & Fitness, Education

4.711K Ratings

🗓️ 4 February 2019

⏱️ 65 minutes

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Summary

Filtering the right people into your life is a skill that can set you on the path to success if you can do it well, and failure if you do it poorly - but how do other people have such a strong influence on your life and what can you do to make sure the people in your life aren’t leading you down a road to failure and discontent? What to Listen For How do the people you surround yourself impact your ability to be happy and accomplish your goals? How can your life be influenced by the friends of friends you don’t even know and what can you do to mitigate the harm they cause? What are “value vampires” and how can you recognize them early on so they don’t waste your valuable time and energy? What does it mean to be a high value individual and how can your pursuit of it help you avoid pain, suffering, and massive hits to your confidence? What do high value individuals do that set them apart from others and lead them to be pursued by everyone else? What is a “friend audit” and how can you perform one to ensure you’re not spending time with the wrong people who are bringing you down or holding you back? Can you avoid the influence people around you have (especially when you work with them all day)? What is the difference between gossiping and venting and why is one dangerous while the other is healthy? What one question can you use to disarm people who try to gossip with you and shift the conversation into a constructive direction? When you allow a low value people into your life, you don’t just bring them into your life, but their friends, their problems, baggage, low value behavior, and values and beliefs. We as humans are influenced by our surroundings more than we think, and it can be a scary thought to confront the possibility that the people closest to you are doing the most harm when it comes to your ability to move forward in life and be happy. As scary and as hard as it might be, performing an audit of your social circle could be the first step in helping you achieve your goals and/or get unstuck if you feel your progress has stalled for a while. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Problems hiring? ZipRecruiter is the highest-rated hiring site in America. Try for FREE at ziprecruiter.com/charm where ZR will send your job to 100+ of the web’s leading job boards. Squarespace is the all-in-one solution for anyone looking to create a beautiful website. Check out squarespace.com/CHARM for a free trial and when you’re ready to launch, use the offer code CHARM to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain Resources from this Episode Episode 693: Identifying Low Value Behaviors Episode 694: Becoming High Value Episode 719: Why Emotional Connection Makes or Breaks a Relationship Episode 738: What Defines Happiness Episode 739: The Key to Happiness Episode 740: How Defined Values Lead to Long-term Happiness Episode 741: Train Your “Happy” | Q&A w/ Christoph Schnedlitz of hiMoment hiMoment App Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Twitter

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0:00.0

Welcome back to the Auditron podcast. I'm Johnny and I'm AJ and we're so glad you joined us for our weekly show where we share over a decade of coaching experience to help you sharpen those social skills and give you that edge.

0:11.9

And if you're a first time listener, here's our story. We run live in person social skills training programs here in Los Angeles. That's right, Johnny. We help everyday people advance their social skills in all areas of their life.

0:23.7

Professional networking, building out a social circle dating or even improving your relationships with family and friends.

0:31.4

And that is about our month long topic, because we're going to be dealing with relationships and the impact they have on our happiness and our well-being.

0:39.6

And if you're interested to learn more, go ahead and check us out at the artofcharm.com for more information.

0:45.5

And on this show, we're going to give you an inside view of what we do at our signature bootcamp program to give you something you could work on in your own life just by listening to this podcast.

0:55.6

Last month, we looked into happiness. Like what kind of happiness lasts the longest and the myths about happiness that we chase and how happiness is like a muscle that we can exercise and watch it grow.

1:08.3

And it was a great start to 2019 and we highly encourage you to take a listen to those episodes if you haven't checked them out already.

1:15.4

Now, we're on to February a new month, which means we're going to dive into something different. And since February is always wrapped up in romance as in Valentine's day. Well, we thought to be a great time to take a look at relationships.

1:29.6

Ah, yes, relationships, the things that allow us to feel good, the whole concept of our emotional support and are also there can be our driver in the success.

1:38.7

And as we learn last month, they are the foundation of that happiness. We all seek now last month was all about happiness and in our two part toolbox episode. We looked at the science behind happiness.

1:50.7

We talked about how happiness is not synonymous with pleasure or comfort, which a lot of us have that misconception, but it rather comes down to living a meaningful life.

1:59.3

We also discuss the two major contributors to that meaningful and happy life purpose and relationships. Now, those two toolbox episodes are jam packed with information about the cutting edge research in the field of happiness.

2:13.2

So if you haven't already checked them out, double back and check out those episodes from last month.

2:18.9

Our interview last month was with none other than Dr. Russ Harris author of the happiness trap. Now he's one of the leading authorities in the field of acceptance and commitment therapy on which so much of our coaching programs are based.

2:31.1

So double back and check that episode out as well. The happiness trap is real and we want to help you overcome a lot of those myths.

2:38.5

And certainly one of the concepts that he talked about with values is going to play a role in what we talk about today because those values are very important.

2:47.0

And of course, when it comes to relationships, those values, if they're going to be similar, can really strengthen and help a relationship be a very positive.

2:55.5

And we also going to talk about what happens when we have some negative values being passed in our relationships. Now, we wrapped the month of January with the Q&A episode of which Christophe Snedlets CEO of high moment joined us to answer your questions.

3:09.7

It's a great app if you haven't checked it out already all around the science of happiness. Now this month we're excited to kick off our entire month dedicated to relationships.

3:21.4

As we heard last month, that is a major contributor to our personal happiness and well being this month, we're going to be tackling just that. What do we mean by relationships?

3:31.0

How do we build them? What's the science behind them? And of course, we have Valentine's Day coming up where relationships are on the forefront of everyone's mind.

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