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The Art of Charm

772: Dan Ariely: How to Defeat Indecision and Regret

The Art of Charm

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Business, Health & Fitness, Education

4.711K Ratings

🗓️ 5 August 2019

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Summary

The harder a decision seems to be for people, the less likely it is that we will spend enough time researching it in order to determine what to do - but why is that, how should we handle the component of time when it comes to waiting to make decisions, and what can you do to eliminate the fear of regret in your life? What to Listen For Why do we spend a lot of time researching insignificant decisions and little time researching significant decisions? How can you approach life-changing decisions from a neutral point of view so you can make the decision for the right reasons? How do does action versus inaction affect our likelihood to regret a certain event and how can you change your perspective in order to eliminate regret? How do we take time into account when deciding how much time to spend researching minor and major decisions? What are the three types of decisions and how can your awareness of each one help you to avoid wasting valuable time What is anchoring and how does it affect our decision making as we make decisions that build on one another and how can your awareness of it prevent you from falling into an unhealthy trap? What are market norms and social norms and how do they affect your willingness to oblige someone’s request for help? How do market norms reduce the trust between people and turn relationships into economic transactions? We make decisions that affect our lives every single day. Some decisions are small, some are big, and some are repeated on a regular basis. Unfortunately, we only have so much time to think about these decisions so it can save us a lot of time if we at least understand how to approach each one. Small decisions, like what movie theater to go to or what appetizer to get, should take the least amount of our time since they impact our lives the least, and our time is better spent being present or contemplating more important decisions. Big decisions, like where to live or who to marry, should necessitate more time as they will have lasting effects on our lives. And lastly, decisions that are made regularly, like your morning routine or what to eat each day, should be automated as much as possible to reduce the drain on your willpower so that it can be used for resource-intensive tasks like work, or studying, or solving complex problems in your life. We only have so much time to live - don’t waste it on unimportant issues in your life. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Lumen5 is empowering everyone with the ability to create short-form videos in a matter of minutes. You can transform an article, blog post, or text message into a video. Enter your text and the Lumen5 A.I. will help you summarize your content, and automatically match it with videos and photos. Right now Lumen Five has a special offer just for you! Go to lumen5.com/charm and you’ll get 50 percent off your first month. Resources from this Episode Dan Ariely Dan Ariely on Facebook Dan Ariely on Twitter Dan’s podcast Arming the Donkeys Predictably Irrational by Dan Ariely The Upside of Irrationality by Dan Ariely The (Honest) Truth About Dishonesty by Dan Ariely Amazing Decisions by Dan Ariely The Art of Charm Bootcamp in Vienna Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

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0:00.0

Welcome back to the Articharm podcast, a show where we bring you

0:03.5

actual tips and strategies on how to become better socially,

0:07.3

whether that's connecting boosting your emotional intelligence or even

0:11.1

this month making better decisions. I'm AJ. I'm Johnny. Last month was

0:15.0

dedicated to the theme of mastering connections. And we covered a lot of

0:18.4

ground. We talked about ways to strengthen the connections we have and to

0:22.0

build long lasting relationships. We also discussed how to prevent

0:25.8

problems in a relationship, how to establish boundaries and more.

0:29.5

Well, this month, as I said, we are going all in on decision making.

0:33.5

And today we are happy to have with us, Dan or Ellie. He's James B.

0:38.0

Duke, Professor of Psychology and Behavioral Economics at Duke University.

0:42.8

Many of you may know him from his best-selling books, predictably

0:46.1

irrational, the upside of irrationality, the honest truth about dishonesty

0:51.2

and many more. If you've read any of his work, then you know that

0:55.2

Professor Aurelie made it his mission to research how and why

0:59.0

humans repeatedly and predictably make the same mistakes again and again.

1:03.8

And that's why we're so honored to have him join us.

1:06.6

And with that, a little housekeeping, AJ and I and the rest of the Articharm

1:11.1

team are going to be heading out to Vienna to visit our friend Michael

1:14.6

Harold, who you guys have caught on this podcast before. We are doing a

1:18.7

live program. It's the first one we've done out of town. We're out of the

1:21.8

state since 2009. So we are certainly looking forward to it. And I

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