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Today we are talking about self-esteem. It's a good one, shorty but a goodie. Thanks for being

here. Enjoy.

Okay, welcome to the full cap, everyone. To start off today, I had a discussion with a friend who had just listened to the marriage podcast.

She was saying her marriage is fine, but she was wanting to relate this to her children who are little that drive her crazy all day.

And she's saying, I'm going to ignore your behavior.

Yeah, I'm not going ignore your behavior. Yeah.

I'm not going to feed this nasty behavior that you kids are exhibiting.

I'm not going to respond to it.

Now, children love their parents.

Even though they might say, I hate you, mom and dad.

They really do value the attention.

And they get that love and control are the same thing.

So if they can irritate their mother, oh, I matter. I can still irritate my mother.

This is not a parent having control over a child. This is a parent having control over herself.

Am I going to let my six-year-old control what I think and feel? There's not a day that goes

by that I don't have a patient come in and they put their 10-year-old in the chair, they put a 15-year-old

or this 70-year-old puts the 50-year-old son in the chair. But the example I give is recently

a woman came in and said, I have a seven-year-old child who's

driving me crazy. And I said, well, who's in charge? The seven-year-old or you? And she said,

well, she just drives me crazy. He irritates me. She knows she can get to me. So I had her put her seven-year-old child in the chair and say,

I'm not going to let your behavior, your pathological behavior, your pathological DT, your nastiness,

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