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Where being busy is overdone, romancing is fun, and scheduling sex has taken the guesswork out of wondering

when you're going to get some.

I'm Tony Deloreenzo, your co-host along with my beautiful wife

Elisa. From coast to coast and around the world, thank you for joining us. It's

time to talk sex, love, and commitment. Gives a caller us on the hug hotline at 858.

86563 or send us an email to hugs at one extraordinary marriage

call. In today's episode we're talking about responsive desire and how the two of you can

navigate this in your marriage. There's a quote from Emily Nagowski who happens to be

the author of the book Come As As You Are, that says,

everyone's sexual desire is responsive and context dependent.

It just feels more spontaneous for some

and more responsive for others,

because even though we're all made of the same parts

the different organizations of those parts result in different experiences.

A little something to think about here at the top of this episode and you know as you're thinking about that we start every one extraordinary marriage episode with a hug and a hug is an opportunity for us to to celebrate what you're doing the way you're being intentional in your marriage the breakthrough that you've had and this hug comes from a post in the one family private Facebook group that said I have to say that I had it in mind that I would hate scheduling sex. I wanted it to be spontaneous and when we were both in the mood and I resisted it at first.

Now I look forward to it and enjoy knowing when to expect it. It allows me to show it prepared and in the right mindset and the consistency is doing

wonders for our marriage. We're in the stage of homeschooling little ones and building a business while my husband still works full time.

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