This is a kind of a working theory I've got and I just wanted to share it down in the comments.

Is that something you've experienced? I don't want to come across as rude though.

So I don't know how I'll just say it.

My name is Father Mike Schmitz and this is a century presents years ago when I was first ordained

and assigned to a parish.

There was something that women, my mom's age, women and my grandma's age would say to me,

it was a little bit annoying and I know they meant well.

I know that it was, it was, I know they meant well I know that it was it was a

they meant it as a term of affection but they would often say something

along the lines of I just feel so drawn to mother you or you need a mom around here that kind of situation again

really well meaning very kind in their part but as as a young man who was like no I'm

relatively competent like I can kind of take care of myself also I already have three moms I have a biological mom I have holy mother church and I have Mary the mother of God I've got enough moms I don't need to fourth I mean that's what I didn't say that that would be rude and I have a thing called manners but sometimes it just kind of great on my my sense of independence my sense of masculinity like I don't need another mother you know again their motivation was only again, their motivation was only kindness. And I wonder

if their motivation wasn't even just good, it wasn't just kind, was something called

grace. Here's what I mean. I've noticed this thing. We'll come back to the mom

thing in a second. I've noticed this thing that happens sometimes when I'm driving

and I encounter a stranger somewhere. So on the road, you know, passing someone

or if someone's passing you and they're driving in such a way that you just is annoying, you know?

We all know that happens. Like you get on the road and someone's driving in a way that's just like,

you don't know how to drive very well, do you? Or't see me did you or you're not a very good driver at least at this moment or you come across a stranger and at some point the stranger says something does something acts in a certain way, you're like, hmm, that is, I don't like that, but they're a stranger.

And so the temptation in some ways is to jump to a conclusion.

They're a terrible driver and a terrible person, or they're acting in this rude way or this way that is not the way I want them to be acting right now.

So of course this person is dismissable.

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