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You're listening to How to Bea Better Human.

I'm your host Chris Duffy. Beauty is one of those words that I think many

of us feel like we know when we see it but also feel like doesn't apply to ourselves.

Or let me not speak for you. That's definitely how I feel. We've all heard the phrase

beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but that's not really true, right? Beauty is

often uncomfortably standardized and limited in who it applies to. It's thin bodies, it's light clear skin,

it's fashionable clothes that double as a display of wealth. But today's guest, Aloque does not buy that. They don't buy that one bit.

Aloque is on a mission to redefine what we think of as beautiful, to help us all to accept ourselves fully and completely,

and to break down the rigid societally constructed rules around gender.

Beauty is less about what we look like and it's more about what we feel like.

Beauty for me is about presence being able to be located here and now, not what anxiety makes me do, which is

dwell in the future and not what depression makes me do, which is stagnate in the past. Beauty is fundamentally about being myself, not even

just looking like myself, being myself, which means that beauty shifts over time.

What I found to be beautiful five years ago is not what I find to be beautiful now.

And that means that we have to make standard that there is no beauty standard, that actually

each person is their own complex universe and offers and templates their own

form of beauty.

We're going to talk much more with a loc in just a moment, but first a quick break.

Don't go anywhere. Hey, it's Adam Grant.

Host of the TED Podcast, work life.

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