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You're listening to How to Bea Bea Better Human.

I'm your host Chris Duffy. I grew up in New York City and so one of the big

differences between my childhood and friends who grew up in other places is how little time I spent

in cars. Starting in around fifth grade I could walk over to a friend's house or hop on the bus on my own.

I remember the first time I took the subway on my own my dad secretly followed me the whole way and he rode in the car right behind me.

I actually didn't know it at the time he only told me that he did this recently.

But pretty soon after that he got comfortable with me on the train and I was comfortable

and if I wanted to go somewhere I would just take the subway regularly all over the city.

I have so many memories of sitting calmly on the train as it whirs along and I'm peacefully reading my book.

So it was kind of surprising when as an adult living in a different state, I owned my first car and I finally started driving to work regularly.

I was really surprised by road rage, and not just other people's road rage, but my own.

Because I cannot think of a time when I ever cursed someone out

or flipped someone off while I was walking down the sidewalk

or on a subway.

I just can't imagine that. But inside of a car, I would

often just find myself boiling with rage. I remember this one time, a car cut me off at a crowded

intersection and I had to slam on my brakes to avoid crashing.

And I was so angry at this person for doing this dangerous move and for being such a fool.

And I was yelling curse words at them and they were yelling curse words at me and then I pulled

alongside the car ready to throw my middle finger out the window at them and I saw that this

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