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One of the themes we talk about a lot here in Brightheart is marital communication.

In this episode, we're going to be talking about

anger and manipulation, and we'll be opening the conversation with a sneak peek at part of a book I've

been working on for some time. The book is all about how a wife can communicate effectively to and

with her husband in marriage. Here is a section from one of the working drafts of a chapter,

focusing on one of the weeds you'll have to pull from time to time.

It's important for women to be aware that we are too often experts at trying to manipulate

people with our emotions.

This does not mean every single time we feel sad or like we need something from our husbands

that we are manipulating him, but it is good for us to be aware that we are prone to this temptation.

Some women manipulate with tears. Others manipulate by giving the cold shoulder or withholding sex.

And still, others may try to manipulate their way into a better marriage by spending a lot of time

angry. As a Christian, this last one often feels very easy to justify in our minds,

especially when real sin is involved, because it makes us feel holy. We think we should be angry

at things that anger God. We need to understand that prolonged anger is not a tool that God

gives us permission to use in our marriages. This is why Ephesians 426 tells us to not

even let the sun go down on our anger. No, this does not mean you must stay up until 4 a.m. to complete

the conversation and get to a resolution. We are also humans and sometimes getting some sleep will

actually put out the fiery emotions in a way

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