you're not wired to be a monk who just sitting on your own like working with all the chaos and just trying to be still. Hey Jason Gatis here. Welcome to the Relationship School podcast. This show focuses on human behavior, psychology and relationships.

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is for people who wrestle with the paradox of self-acceptance

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and more fulfilling relationships

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In this episode I've got a man named Derek and I'm going to be coaching him.

He's more on the anxious side of a long-term partnership dynamic and his wife is more on the avoidance side.

And he's asking me about kind of a spiritual practice slash approach to working with his nervous system and I'm offering a more

nervous systemy answer than a spiritual answer, even though I have a

lot in common with this guy being a Buddhist practitioner for a long time and understanding meditation, mindfulness,

Vajriana, etc. And he brings up Bruce Tift who I've interviewed on the podcast, who I love.

And, you know, there's, we get, Ellen and I get questions like this a lot, and I thought it would be useful for me to share

and with Derek's permission this episode the short coaching session

right I think I help him maybe think about this a little differently and I'll be curious what you think. So leave

a comment on social media wherever this is posted or reply to the email that goes out or send us an email

info at relationship school.com. And if you're a coach or therapist, you'll want to pay close attention to what I'm up to here with Derek.

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