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So you know, this episode has language that's PG-13.

So if you're playing this on your speakers in the office, maybe save it for later.

Hey y'all, I'm Lori Lissaraga, and this is Ask Code Switch,

the show where we tackle your stickiest, trickiest questions about race and identity.

And this week's question comes from a listener about race and dating preferences in her new romance.

Hi Coatswetch, this is Nicole G calling in with a question.

I've been casually seeing a guy for a few months now.

For reference, I'm white, he's black, and we're

palleyamorous. I've briefly met his other partners, and they are both also white women.

This struck me as little odd since we both live in a major city

that is multiracial. I've met some of his friends and that group was diverse.

I'm currently at a point in my life where I want to make sure I'm actually living my values,

including challenging my whiteness and what comes with that. I want to ask him about it,

but I also don't want to seem like I'm questioning his racial identity or trying to minimize his life or

choices as a black man. I also don't know his entire dating history, so maybe he just has a

type as of late? Any advice on navigating this conversation?

Introducing a romantic partner

to the indemacies in your past or present can be daunting in any new relationship.

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