Attachment, Boundaries, and Finding Yourself: Relationship Mailbag

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well

Health & Fitness, Education, Self-improvement, Mental Health

4.8 • 2.4K Ratings

🗓️ 4 November 2024

⏱️ 69 minutes

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Summary

Dr. Rick and Forrest answer listener questions focused on navigating relationship challenges. They explore how to rediscover yourself after a codependent relationship, distinguish between healthy and unhealthy desires, maintain friendships after romantic feelings emerge, overcome self-consciousness in social interactions, and communicate effectively during stress responses. Whether you're healing from a breakup, working through attachment issues, or seeking to build more authentic connections, this episode offers practical advice. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 0:50: After a breakup, how can I reconnect with myself and identify what I really want? 7:50: How do I distinguish between healthy and unhealthy wanting? 18:40: How can I stay friends with someone I’ve had romantic feelings for? 32:20: How can I learn to let my thoughts and speech flow more naturally? 39:10: How can I communicate with care when I find myself in an attachment-related freeze response? 56:15: Recap I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there. Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell. Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. Trust your gut with Seed’s DS-01 Daily Synbiotic. Go to Seed.com/BEINGWELL and use code 25BEINGWELL to get 25% off your first month. Get 15% off OneSkin with the code BEINGWELL at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome to being well. I'm Forrest Hansen. If you're new to the podcast, thanks for joining us today. And if you've listened to before, welcome back. I'm here today, as usual, with Dr. Rick Hansen. Dad, how are you doing today?
0:20.1	I'm great. Actually, thanks for asking.
0:22.5	Yeah, today we're going to be answering some questions from our listeners. I've been really looking
0:26.7	forward to this one. It's going to be a great mailbag episode. All of the questions today
0:31.0	touch on aspects of our relationships with other people. And if you'd like to ask a question to be
0:36.7	answered in the mailbag, you can reach
0:38.9	out to us through email, contact at being well podcast.com. You can also find us on Patreon at patreon.com
0:45.3	slash being well podcast. Always love these episodes. We got some really phenomenal questions today.
0:51.8	So first at, I was in a long relationship that was unhealthy and
0:56.6	codependent, and we recently broke up. How can I reconnect with my own identity and figure out
1:02.5	what I really want? Well, it's haunting to feel the weight of what it's like to be that person
1:09.6	and also to feel what it's like to be that person and also to feel what it's like to be oneself
1:15.5	who may feel somewhat out of touch with deep values, aims, longings of the heart, drifting maybe
1:24.5	or maybe stagnant, hitting a plateau in life, which I think is quite common for people,
1:29.9	getting some things buttoned up and taken care of, but then you have a little bit of a talking
1:34.8	heads lyric going through the back of your mind, is this my house? Is this my wife? Is this my life?
1:42.4	How did I get here? And you start to look more deeply. There are a lot of,
1:47.8	I think, excellent, detailed ways into this question. I'm thinking for the moment here of the
1:53.8	values and action inventories that are worth looking into online. I want to explore this question
2:00.4	partly as it lands in me, which comes from more of a body. worth looking into online. I want to explore this question,
2:01.1	partly as it lands in me,
2:03.4	which comes from more of a bottom-up,
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