The following podcast is a dear media production. Hey guys welcome back to We Metadakme. Today's episode is all about how friendship is

different after kids and we're gonna talk about both the non-mom or childless perspective and the mom perspective here.

So I guess I'll start with how I felt before I had kids.

I really felt like I wasn't, like when I was,

even before I was trying to have kids,

I would go to kids birthday parties let's say and I always knew I wanted kids

and maybe that makes things a little different so keep that in mind but I would

go to kids birthday parties and I would feel like an outsider.

Like I would feel weird being at a kid's birthday party

because I felt like having a baby was like a ticket to entry into this world in which I wasn't part of and

that didn't mean that I didn't think that I was going to be part of it one day.

I think what exacerbated that was when I was trying to get

pregnant and I was going to kids birthday parties. I think the bottom line here is

don't go to kids birthday parties before you have a kid. It brings up really shitty feelings and don't

invite your childless friends to your kids birthday party because they're going to feel bad and feel like

they have to go and feel like it means a lot to you.

Like I just actually did a whole sub-stack on why we all need to chill about kids' birthday parties on my

we met a baby sub- sub stack and I really will say you know for me I'm

only going to invite the babies that Zachary's friends with and like my family but I would never subject my friends who don't have kids to that

kind of situation and here you know comes this this whole divide I was listening to an episode of We Can Do Hard Things, I believe is the title,

the Glen and Doyle podcast, and her wife Abby were talking to Reese Witherspoon and she had a very interesting perspective on

friendship and so I took some notes and wrote some things down that I wanted to share with you

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