Hello, it's Annie here back with another edition of Changes Focus.

This new version of Changes is us being able to look back at such a huge amount of amazing conversations and zoom in on one theme and then bring you all the different guests take on that theme.

So last week we did education and we had some amazing people

speaking about their schooling experiences. This week we focus on a theme that

comes up again and again when people are asked about the big changes in their lives and that is

parenting. Now of course not all of us want to be parents or choose to be parents or

are able to be parents but we have all beened in some way. It is a universal theme and you will hear

from author Zady Smith, My Husband, Tea, discussing parenting when you have ADHD, and comedians Jen Brister and Josh Whitticham

who get into discussing porn with children and what not to expect when your partner is in labor.

So let's begin with Zady Smith, one of the most exalted authors in the world today.

Now Zady when asked what the biggest change was in her adult life, said it was having children.

I loved what she said, particularly about freedom and people still come up to me and talk to me about this episode.

I asked Zady, how did having children change you?

I feel like when I was younger sometimes I would wake up at 11.

I remember that. I had my mouth full of water there.

I feel that did sometimes happen and

and I do, I was remembering recently, actually reading your book that I did spend a lot of weekends going back into Soho or Doulston to pick up a credit card that I'd left before or some sunglasses or a phone and life was just like this endless rolling chaos.

I had no domestic existence like I didn't know how to cook I was not clean. It was just that kind of life it was there was no order to it no

structure at all and then kids changed all that and and also made time so valuable to me.

So that's the main thing.

When I first had my first child, I didn't really realize

that had a child for a long time.

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