Charles Duhigg: How to Instantly Connect—The Science of Supercommunication

Change Your Brain Every Day

Dr Daniel Amen

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🗓️ 7 April 2025

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Summary

Why do some conversations feel electric while others fall flat? In this eye-opening episode, Dr. Daniel Amen and Tana Amen sit down with Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist and bestselling author Charles Duhigg (The Power of Habit, Supercommunicators) to explore what really makes people connect. You’ll learn how brain scans reveal that during powerful conversations, people’s brains literally sync up. Duhigg breaks down the three types of conversations everyone has—and why knowing which one you’re in can instantly improve your communication. Discover the surprising myths we believe about connection, and why asking deep, meaningful questions is the real secret to becoming a “supercommunicator.”

00:00 Intro

01:24 Sponsor

01:47 Common Myths of Communication

03:38 The 3 Categories of Communication

08:04 Communication Skills

10:22 Alignment

15:03 Mismatched Conversations

18:02 Listening/Looking for Understanding

21:11 The Goals of Each Type of Communication

25:13 Connection When You Don’t Agree

32:19 Close Relationships

35:29 Digital Communication

39:50 Artificial Intelligence

40:48 Where to Start?

46:28 Sponsor

47:36 Wrap Up

Super Communicators, by Charles Duhigg:

https://charlesduhigg.com/supercommunicators/

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0:00.0	The goal of a conversation is not to convince you that you're wrong and I'm right or that I'm smart or you should like me.
0:07.5	The goal of a conversation is to understand how you see the world and to speak in such a way that you can understand how I see the world.
0:15.9	And if we've done that and we walk away from a conversation, still disagreeing with each other, not thinking that the other person is right. That doesn't matter because we've achieved our goal. We understand each other.
0:26.1	And more importantly, we will feel more connected to each other. And it's that sense of connection
0:31.5	that helps us persevere because none of us agrees 100% with everyone else.
0:39.3	Every day you are making your brain better or you are making it worse.
0:44.8	Stay with us to learn how you can change your brain for the better every day.
0:51.0	In this week's episode of the Change Your Brain Everyday podcast, Tanna and I are joined by Charles
0:59.4	Duhigg, who is a Pulitzer Prize winning journalist and the author of The Power of Habit
1:06.5	and Super Communicators. We discuss misconceptions about communication, the different communication
1:14.9	styles, and the power of becoming an excellent active listener. I hope you enjoy this
1:22.8	week's conversation. This podcast is brought to you by the Change Your Brain Foundation, dedicated to ending the
1:33.2	concept of mental illness by creating a revolution in brain health. Go to change your brain
1:42.3	dot org to learn how you can support our mission.
1:47.5	Welcome to the Change Your Brain Everyday podcast where we explore how to take control of your
1:53.3	thoughts, habits, and communication for a healthier, more connected life.
1:59.2	I'm Dr. Daniel Eamon.
2:03.2	And I'm Tanna Eamon. And today we're diving into the science of communication, how we can listen better, speak more effectively, and basically
2:08.6	how to build deeper connections. And to help us do that, we have Charles Duhigg, Pulitzer
2:14.8	Prize winning journalists, and author of Super Communicators, his latest book
2:22.3	on mastering the art of conversation.
2:26.5	Welcome, Charles.
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