I'm Dessa, and this is deeply human, why we do the things we do.

And we are gathered here today to talk about love.

We spend a lot of time trying to find it, but we might be better off trying to build it.

Less swiping and more second dates.

Can you hear me?

Very well.

Okay, I'm going to ask some questions about dating.

If you could think of a character and a movie that would serve as a rough model for a good

match for me, who would it be?

Oh, my goodness.

The first thing that comes to mind is Indiana Jones.

Because of the adventurousness.

I would totally date Harrison Ford as Indiana Jones.

Of course you would.

And he's got the physical thing.

He's not afraid of getting dirty.

He's swashbuckling.

That's my mom, Sylvia. She's very professional in public and kind of goofy when it's just us.

We talk on the phone most weeks, sharing little updates about our lives, comparing notes on the world around us.

I happen to be on the dating market at the moment,

and I've been thinking a lot lately about romantic matching,

what it is that attracts people to one another and fixes them together.

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