Disagreeable Colleagues

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🗓️ 20 February 2020

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Is there someone you work with and wish you didn’t have to? Dan and Alison answer your questions with the help of Jennifer Goldman-Wetzler, an organizational psychologist and the author of Optimal Outcomes. They talk through what to do when you manage a high performer who gets on everyone’s nerves, your teammate unfairly berates you, or the one person you don’t get along with is your boss.

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0:00.0	Welcome to Dear HBR from Harvard Business Review.
0:03.9	I'm Dan McGinn.
0:04.9	And I'm Alison Beard.
0:12.3	Work can be frustrating, but it doesn't have to be.
0:15.3	We don't need to let the conflicts get us down.
0:17.8	That's where Dear HBR comes in.
0:19.9	We take your questions, look at the research, talk to the experts, and help you move forward.
0:32.8	Today we're talking about disagreeable colleagues with Jennifer Goldman-Wetzler.
0:37.1	She's an executive
0:37.9	coach and the author of Optimal Outcomes. Free yourself from conflict at work, at home, and in life.
0:44.3	Jen, thanks for coming in the show. Thanks so much for having me, Dan. Now, doesn't every workplace
0:49.1	have at least one disagreeable colleague? Absolutely. Maybe there's a bell curve.
0:55.3	But, you know, it's all in the eye of the beholder.
0:57.3	So, you know, I don't know many people who consider themselves to be disagreeable people.
1:01.2	But we often think other people are.
1:04.3	Is there often a correlation between performance and disagreeableness?
1:09.4	Somebody's a really high performer, but they're just really hard to
1:12.0	work with? Yes, I see that often. And people can be very good at their job technically or externally.
1:20.1	So, you know, I've seen many, many leaders who are great at managing client relationships and very
1:26.1	poor at managing their relationships internally inside of
1:29.3	their organizations.
1:30.9	And so that can really cause problems for other people inside of those organizations who struggle
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