Don’t Fight About the Wrong Things, Find Your Real Marriage Issue | Ep. 646

Awesome Marriage Podcast

Dr. Kim Kimberling

Marriage, Awesomemarriagepodcast, Marriagepodcast, Awesomemarriage, Marriageadvice, Society & Culture, Religion & Spirituality, Relationships, Christianmarriage, Christianity

4.9 • 802 Ratings

🗓️ 15 October 2024

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Summary

Are you truly resolving your marriage issues? Most couples experience recurring arguments that never truly resolve. This cycle leaves you with two problems: 1, You never solved the issue, and 2, now one or both are hurt and angry. Plus you’ve got some baggage around the issue, too. Today we’re going to help you learn how to resolve the actual issues.

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.

Episode highlights include:

What NOT to do in a recurring argument
Communication tips to help you prevent conflict
Conversation hacks to prevent defensiveness
The process to understand the REAL underlying issues

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!

Couples Conversation Guide:

Main takeaway: If you have recurring arguments (most couples do!) there’s probably a deeper issue you’re not aware of. Get under the surface to resolve the real issue.

Questions to Discuss:

On a scale from 1-10, how well do you and your spouse resolve your marriage conflict?
Better communication helps you address the real issues you need to resolve. What is one step you can take to grow your communication today?

QUOTES

"Most couples have recurring arguments that never truly resolve" - Lindsay Few
"Being vulnerable builds intimacy and trust." - Dr. Kim Kimberling
"Using 'I' statements takes ownership and responsibility." - Dr. Kim Kimberling
"Learning to resolve conflict in a healthy way is a gift to your marriage." - Dr. Kim Kimberling

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet is a printable resource to help you address conflict the healthy way. Grab the free cheat sheet HERE!
Marriage Multiplier is a quick and highly practical weekly email to help you invest in your marriage. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Has infidelity damaged your marriage? Sign up for Dr. Kim’s webinar Rebuilding Trust and Establishing Healthy Boundaries After an Affair and learn what steps to take next.
15 Better Assumptions To Make About Your Spouse is a free printable to help you set your mind on what is true, right and good. Learn more here!
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Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast, a place for honest conversations and practical advice on how to build an awesome marriage.
0:09.7	I am your podcast producer and co-host, Lindsay Few. On the show will be our host Dr. Kim Kimberly.
0:17.0	Dr. Kim is a marriage counselor and has been married for over 50 years.
0:21.8	His passion is to help you strengthen your most intimate relationship.
0:27.8	Well, welcome to the awesome marriage podcast.
0:29.8	We are so glad you're joining us today.
0:31.5	I am your podcast co-host, Lindsay Few, and Dr. Kim is in the studio with me today.
0:37.1	So most couples have experienced recurring
0:39.7	arguments that never truly resolve, and that leaves you with now two problems. One,
0:45.2	you've never solved the issue, and two, now one or both of you are hurt or angry. And you've
0:50.3	probably got some baggage, too. So we're going to help you truly resolve the issues that need it today. And before we get into this topic, I want to let you know about the conflict
0:58.8	workbook and cheat sheet that we have for you. We've created just one of our most popular
1:03.3	resources actually is the cheat sheet because it gives you some really quick and easy, practical
1:07.9	problem solving tips for when you're in conflict. And so we will have links
1:12.4	to that in the show notes. And also, I want you to stick around to the end for a great freebie we
1:16.7	have for you if you are wanting to build into your marriage. So Dr. Kim, most couples have experienced
1:24.4	recurring arguments without true resolution. Why does this happen?
1:30.3	You know, I think, well, there's a number of reasons, but you know, I think we always should go back
1:33.7	to communication, poor communication, not listening, avoiding topics, not being empathetic
1:39.5	with your spouse, being critical, being defensive, all those things that come out of bad
1:44.0	communication. And I think, you know, I tell couples a those things that come out of bad communication.
1:45.5	And I think, you know, I tell couples a lot of times if you can learn to really communicate well,
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