Hey fellow travelers, I'm Lori Gottlieb. I'm the author of maybe you should talk to someone and I write the dear therapist advice column for the Atlantic.

And I'm Guy Wench, I'm the author of Emotional First Aid, and I write the Dear Guy advice column for Ted.

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This week, a woman wonders if her fiance's past infidelities on social media

spell trouble for their future together.

It was an infatuation, but it wasn't until I caught him this past summer where he said that he had been in love with her.

Like, I didn't know that he had felt that way towards her.

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Hi Lori. Hey Guy. So what do we have today? Well today we have a complicated

relationship situation and it goes like this. Dear therapist I'm a 42 year old woman who for the past decade has been a single mom of one, but who now is engaged to Dan, a wonderful man with two kids, both teens like my son.

A year into our dating, became unintentionally pregnant which sped along the cohabitation

process.

My son and I moved into Dan's house just two years after his contentious divorce.

The first year was really rough. Dan's daughter hated me and acted

out in rage often and it felt like things weren't going to be able to work. I felt terribly

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