When I started working on this podcast two years ago, I promised myself that I'd only do it if I could preserve my daughter's privacy.

I'd only do it if we could preserve my daughter's privacy. I'd only do it if we could be totally anonymous.

I know that there are other parents of trans kids sharing their stories in the media and I'm

grateful for that. How else is the world going to learn

about kids like ours? But my daughter's really private about being trans and I

have to respect that. So I picked a pseudonym.

Marlow is for Marlow Thomas.

Because as a kid in the 70s,

I loved her Free-to-be You and Me album

that promoted girl power.

But I could not possibly marry your daughter unless she wished to marry me.

And questioned traditional gender norms.

And I could not possibly marry you before I've gone off to see the world.

A lot of it is still really relevant today,

which is pretty sad, but that's another story. After I picked my pseudonym, I started worrying that someone might recognize my voice.

So I asked some of my friends whose voices I like, if they would narrate my podcast for me.

Six years ago, I gave birth to my first and only child, a boy.

My child told me he was actually a girl, not a boy.

But it didn't feel right to have someone else telling my story

So I asked a tech-savvy friend to try to make me sound like me

But not quite like me using voice modification software.

He looked me in the eyes and told me something had gone wrong in my tummy.

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