Today on the awesome marriage podcast, we have Kathy Young joining us to share the third part of her story of how she knew her marriage was abusive, why she stayed as long as she did, and what led to her decision to get out.

Now let's go to the studio with Dr. Kim and Kathy for part three of Kathy's story.

Welcome back, Kathy.

Thank you.

Thanks for what you're sharing in the first two episodes, and I'm excited about this

just because so many people need to hear this part of it, just like the others, but this,

you know, what do you do if you're in that situation?

How do you get safe?

So we're going to start there today today and let's do the first question what are some of the reasons an abuse

spouse doesn't seek help obviously there are a lot of reasons that we've talked about for you

what in general do you see yeah there are i've seen before a list of a hundred different reasons, literally,

but just in culling some of them down, especially in looking in faith-based circles and stuff,

one is the fear of not being believed. That's really significant, especially if he looks great

at church or somewhere else. if he looks great at church. Yeah. Or somewhere else. If he

looks good somewhere else, then you're really afraid you're not going to be believed. And that's

devastating, right? Yeah. It happens. Yeah. Oh, yes. Another is your kids of, it doesn't matter

what age they are. Most of us are, we've been trying to protect our family.

Sure.

Our whole life, really, our whole married life, so you don't know what kind of effect that's going to have on them.

There are literally studies that show the high percentage of women who do not leave abusive relationships because of their pets even.

Really?

Yeah, so I just want to throw that out there because that's interesting because you don't think about everything.

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