Former Spy: If You’re Easily Offended, You’re Easily Manipulated! Psychological Trick That Makes People Respect You! This 1 Trick Catches A Lie In Seconds!

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

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Society & Culture, Business, Education

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🗓️ 24 February 2025

⏱️ 160 minutes

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Summary

She was trained to read minds, spot lies, and face danger - here’s what former Secret Service Agent Evy Poumpouras learned from protecting the world’s most powerful leaders Evy Poumpouras is a former Special Agent with the U.S. Secret Service. She is the author of the bestselling book, ‘Becoming Bulletproof: Protect Yourself, Read People, Influence Situations, Live Fearlessly’ and co-host of Bravo’s TV competition series ‘Spy Games’. In this conversation, Evy and Steven discuss topics such as, the dangers of getting easily offended, why you should stop asking people’s opinions, the top body language mistake that makes you look weak, and Evy’s ‘I’m not special’ hack for success. 00:00 Intro 02:13 What Is Evy Doing for People? 03:42 What Do People Come to Evy For? 04:05 People Sabotage Themselves 05:38 Lie Detecting 07:01 How Do We Start to Become Mentally Strong? 09:31 The People You Associate With Can Impact You 12:35 Observe Your Opponent, Don't Listen to Them 16:22 How Does Steven Pick People? 22:11 Living Fearlessly 24:29 Making Decisions Will Increase Your Confidence 28:42 How to Stop Others From Controlling Your Life 34:56 Making Decisions 37:01 How to Make Progress in Your Life or Career 40:12 Reliving Your Pains Makes You Feel High 43:25 Sexism in the Secret Service 52:05 How to Make Rational Decisions 57:08 What to Do When People Are Not Treating You Well 01:02:00 Being Bullied in a Work Environment 01:08:14 What I Learned About Bullies as a Secret Agent 01:12:59 How to Stop Being Prey for a Predator 01:20:44 Can Someone's Life Be Determined by the Way They Speak? 01:22:34 Ads 01:23:33 The Importance of Gesticulating With Your Hands 01:28:08 Can You Fake Your Body Language? 01:36:28 What's Step 1 to Becoming That Person When I'm Not? 01:42:15 Do You Have to Go Through Difficult Times to Learn? 01:47:11 The Hack of Knowing You're Not Special or the Only One 02:00:59 Ads 02:03:02 People Don't Want to Be Victims Anymore 02:07:52 Should We Make People Like Us? 02:09:43 The Importance of Being Authentic 02:11:50 Why Rejection Is the Way to Resilience 02:14:19 The Four Communication Styles 02:25:31 Emotion in the Police Workforce 02:27:40 Switching Styles During Interviews Follow Evy: Instagram - https://bit.ly/4gU6Pxo Twitter - https://bit.ly/4hJDgzW Website - https://bit.ly/4hHHQia Evy’s BBC Maestro Course - https://bit.ly/43dx1zZ You can purchase Evy’s book, ‘Becoming Bulletproof: Protect Yourself, Read People, Influence Situations, Live Fearlessly’, here: https://amzn.to/4gMEv09 Evy’s BBC Maestro Course - https://bit.ly/43dx1zZ Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook You can purchase the The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: Second Edition, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb Follow me: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb Sponsors: Linkedin Jobs - https://www.linkedin.com/doac PerfectTed - https://www.perfectted.com with code DIARY40 for 40% off Vanta - https://vanta.com/steven Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	If I'm easily offended, I'm easily manipulated.
0:02.3	So if you are that person where you are reactive, reactive, reactive, reactive, rule number one.
0:07.8	Shut the fuck up.
0:08.9	Because if you're looking to be respected, you need to manage yourself.
0:12.0	But there are times that people are going to cross you and disrespect you.
0:14.4	How do you deal with it?
0:15.3	So there was a guidepost that's talked to the intelligence communities, and it really, really helps when you're dealing with people. And so one of the ways you deal with that kind of behavior is...
0:24.0	Abby Popolus, the former Secret Service agent turned human behavior expert.
0:27.7	From protecting presidents to interrogating the world's most dangerous men.
0:30.9	She now teaches people how to develop mental strength and persuasive communication skills.
0:34.7	How did they train you as a secret service agent to have that strong mental foundation
0:38.6	that you have?
0:39.3	There's a lot of things.
0:40.5	So first, one of the biggest things that holds people about is the idea that I'm special.
0:44.2	You're not that special.
0:45.2	For example, I was one of the first responders at 9-11.
0:48.0	I watched thousands of people die.
0:49.7	And one of the things that got me through it was understanding I wasn't alone in it. And when you learned that,
0:54.3	you can get through anything. When you tell yourself, nobody knows what I'm going through. Nobody can help
0:58.9	you because it's just you going through it. Now, the next thing, what's most important is this tool
1:04.1	that we don't pay attention to, our body. And there's a study where they started recording people
1:08.4	walking. Then they laid it to convicted felons and they said to
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