The Manipulation Expert: Most People Don't Realise They're Narcissists! You're Setting Your Child Up For Misery!

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

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Society & Culture, Business, Education

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🗓️ 27 February 2025

⏱️ 163 minutes

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Are you being manipulated without knowing it? Robert Greene reveals the silent tactics of influence and how to take back control Robert Greene, returning for his third time on DOAC, is a world-renowned expert on human psychology and behaviour. He is also a multiple New York Times bestselling-author of 7 books such as, ‘The 48 Laws of Power’, ‘The Art of Seduction’ and ‘The 33 Strategies of War’. In this conversation, Robert and Steven discuss topics such as, how most people don’t realise they’re narcissists, the hidden cost of porn, why you’re setting your child up for misery, and why good people never win. 00:00 Intro 02:14 The Most Important Decision of Your Life 04:53 Is There a Strategy for Finding Your Purpose? 09:52 Is It Harder to Find Your Purpose When You're Older? 14:30 The Only Way to Learn Anything! 15:50 Why Do We Procrastinate? 17:11 We Need to Develop Toughness and Set Limits 20:08 Skills Are the Gold of Today's World 23:02 The Longer Road vs. Shortcuts 26:34 Channeling Your Dark Side 30:31 How Important Is Focus for Mastery? 41:27 Too Many People Want Quick Returns 43:36 The Different Types of Intelligence 47:05 Controlling Your Envy Is Important 52:29 Use Your Envy to Become Better 54:13 Why Mastery Is Still a Successful Book 55:53 What Is the Solution to Loneliness and Powerlessness? 01:01:30 The Difference Between Being Lonely and Alone 01:09:49 How Pornography Hooks You 01:16:10 Ads 01:17:15 Are We Breeding a Culture of Lower Motivation Because of Porn? 01:21:43 What Do We Not Want to Admit About Human Nature? 01:24:28 The Narcissist in Us 01:27:20 Dealing With Narcissists 01:28:47 Do We Have to Be Actors to Get Ahead? 01:30:42 Do You Need Lies and Manipulation to Succeed in Life? 01:33:16 The Contribution Score 01:35:09 Let Others Do the Work, but Take the Credit 01:39:42 The Importance of Self-Control 01:44:00 What to Do When Injustice Is Done to Us 01:48:29 Predators Love Prey 01:49:31 Are We Going Through Dangerous Times? 01:57:16 Wokeism and Trump: Which Side Got Things Right and Wrong? 02:02:47 The Power of the Masses Can Be Dangerous 02:05:56 Are We Caught Up in Maniac Solutions? 02:08:33 Ads 02:09:28 What Does Our Identity Mean to Us? 02:13:59 Our Minds Are Getting Smaller! 02:19:33 Judging Based on Appearances 02:22:54 How Does Someone With Power Behave? 02:25:33 Can You Fake It Until You Make It? 02:26:10 How to Be Confident 02:28:20 How to Believe in Yourself When You Don't 02:34:36 What to Do in Negotiations Follow Robert: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/WLXqDa7GiRb Twitter - https://g2ul0.app.link/RYo8kigHiRb Website - https://g2ul0.app.link/s0by34hHiRb Spotify: You can purchase Robert’s book, ‘The Daily Laws: 366 Meditations from the author of the bestselling The 48 Laws of Power’, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/9s2XkfoHiRb Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook You can purchase the The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: Second Edition, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb Follow me: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb Independent fact check - https://stevenbartlett.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/DOAC-Robert-Greene-Independent-research.pdf Sponsors: PerfectTed - https://www.perfectted.com with code DIARY40 for 40% off Shopify - https://shopify.com/bartlett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Everybody has narcissistic tendencies and we're all self-absorbed, but nobody wants to admit it.
0:05.0	It's always somebody else, it's always Donald Trump, it's always Elon Mussel.
0:08.0	But everyone has a manipulative side.
0:10.0	There are no saints in this world.
0:12.0	But can you use it productively?
0:13.0	Yes, most definitely.
0:15.0	There's deep narcissists who are very problematic and there's healthy narcissists.
0:18.0	And knowing the distinction between the two will help save you years of misery.
0:22.6	We're from dealing with a narcissist.
0:24.6	I want you to do this following.
0:26.6	I want you to...
0:27.6	Robert Green is one of the most influential writers in history.
0:29.6	Unravelling the secrets of power, strategy, and human psychology
0:32.6	and are essential for purpose, resilience and success.
0:35.6	What is it about human nature that we just don't want to admit?
0:38.5	One is that envy is deeply ingrained in all of us.
0:41.7	In fact, always wanting to be better and superior to others.
0:45.1	It's the most motivating factor of 90% of human behavior.
0:48.7	But if you don't admit it to yourself, that ugly emotion is like a nuclear bomb to all aspects of life. It will seize you by
0:55.8	the throat and make you miserable. But there's also understanding things like we all judge on
1:01.1	appearances that everyone has a dark side and that we are all actors. And I will get into the
1:06.2	needy-gritty of all of them because it's really about how powerful people use those traits for
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