Fostering Independence in a Relationship | Staying True to Your Sense of Self and Identity

Prologues

Mary Skinner

Society & Culture

4.8 • 850 Ratings

🗓️ 26 February 2024

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Summary

Entry #38. When I was younger, I struggled with getting swept away and losing parts of myself in my relationships. Multiple times, I fell into codependent habits, which proved detrimental to my mental health and the health of the relationships overall. It also wasn't fair on the past partners - nobody can be *everything* to somebody else. This is something I've spent years working on in therapy and out, and I am now in a place where I feel strong in my sense of self - which is obviously something that helps my marriage thrive. In today's episode, I am sharing my personal journey towards healthy independence in a relationship, why I think it's important, and also my struggle points. See you next Monday x This episode is sponsored by LMNT. Use this link for a free sample pack with purchase: DrinkLMNT.com/MarySkinner Info on LMNT's electrolyte ratios: https://science.drinklmnt.com/electrolytes/lmnts-electrolyte-ratios-explained/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=hot&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiA5-uuBhDzARIsAAa21T9u6Q8CYjjEuIunJzRsyu0tn6PXMzArSa5Grcs2jZTJRACkWJDKgqwaAjNAEALw_wcB&_gl=1*1mzzelx*_ga*NzM4NjkzNTgzLjE3MDgzNzgxODY.*_ga_BKZV7MVXM7*MTcwODg5MDg2OC4zLjAuMTcwODg5MDg2OC42MC4wLjA. Headspace code for 60 days free: MARY60D 30% OFF PROLOGUES MERCH: theprologuespodcast.com WHERE TO FIND ME: - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mary.cj.skinner - Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theprologuespodcast - Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@MarySkinner - Business inquiries / submissions for upcoming Q&A episodes: [email protected]

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0:00.0	Welcome to Prologs. My name is Mary, and when I get overwhelmed and start feeling behind,
0:23.0	I find it helpful to zoom out and remind myself that I am still in the beginning of my story.
0:28.1	I'm sharing all of my life's chapters, mental health, relationships, wellness, beauty,
0:33.5	the chaos of being in my 20s, and all of life's unexpected turns.
0:39.1	Prologs is the best way to start your week, so join me every Monday morning for a new entry into my digital journal.
0:46.3	While it's still February, still the month of love, I thought we need to have at least one
0:51.4	relationship-focused podcast episode. And I thought about a lot of different
0:55.7	ideas, but the biggest topic that kept coming up on my heart over and over again was this idea
1:01.0	of maintaining independence while you're in a relationship, particularly a long-term relationship.
1:06.0	I mentioned it in a YouTube video and I asked, does this sound interesting to you all? And you said yes. So that's what
1:12.5	we're going to be talking about today. If you've ever struggled with codependency or feeling like
1:17.3	you've lost your sense of self or you've gotten swept up in a relationship, you haven't been
1:22.6	able to find your feet, this is the episode for you. Or if you've gotten out of a long term
1:26.9	relationship and you've realized that you a long-term relationship and you've
1:28.1	realized that you didn't maintain your independence and now you're trying to find yourself again,
1:31.7	also for you. This is near and dear to my heart because I've done all of those things. I am married,
1:37.4	as you guys know, but this is the first relationship where I've made a really conscious effort
1:43.2	to maintain my sense of self and my individuality.
1:46.7	And I think it's one of the reasons why this is obviously the healthiest relationship I've
1:50.9	ever been in. This is something I got wrong over and over again in past relationships.
1:56.3	And it was always really detrimental to my mental health and to just me as a person. It took a lot of work,
2:02.9	a lot of therapy to get to a point where I was able to recognize this pattern that I kept
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