Gaslighting & Narcissism Q & A | Ep. 622

Awesome Marriage Podcast

Dr. Kim Kimberling

Marriage, Awesomemarriagepodcast, Marriagepodcast, Awesomemarriage, Marriageadvice, Society & Culture, Religion & Spirituality, Relationships, Christianmarriage, Christianity

4.9 • 802 Ratings

🗓️ 18 June 2024

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

We have gotten a lot of questions about gaslighting and narcissism, and today Dr. Kim is answering. This topic is layered and one podcast episode cannot take the place of more in-depth interventions, but we can offer helpful and hopeful next steps. In today’s episode we’re covering how to know what constitutes abuse versus the sin nature we all struggle with. Listen for

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.

Episode highlights include:

Marriage counseling doesn’t work with abusers – So what does?
Can a marriage recover after long-term gaslighting?
How to diagnose abuse using the power and control wheel
Does the “gray rock” strategy work in marriage?
Reasons why emotional abuse is often dismissed

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!

QUOTES

“Narcissism is all about power and control. Neither of those have a place in marriage at all.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“I don't think God expects anyone to live in an abusive situation. In many ways, it’s as much a violation of vows as adultery is to not take seriously your vow to love and cherish your spouse.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“You deserve to be safe.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“If you look at the message of the BIble, you can’t defend any type of abuse, for any person, ever.” - Lindsay Few
“The goal would be repentance and reconciliation.” - Lindsay Few
“The reason a lot of people minimize emotional abuse because they haven’t seen it.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“I’ve seen people who gaslight and don't really understand what they’ve been doing.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“Nobody’s uplifted or brought closer to Christ through manipulative behaviors.” - Lindsay Few

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

The Power and Control Wheel is helpful to understand what constitutes abuse
If your marriage is doing okay but could use a jumpstart, then this 5 Week Marriage Refresher Challenge is for you!
Past episodes on the topic:

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast, a place for honest conversations and practical advice on how to build an awesome marriage.
0:09.6	I am your podcast producer and co-host, Lindsay Few.
0:13.4	On the show will be our host, Dr. Kim Kimberly.
0:17.0	Dr. Kim is a marriage counselor and has been married for over 50 years.
0:21.8	His passion is to help you strengthen your most intimate relationship.
0:27.7	Blame, gaslighting, and narcissism are a poison to a marriage and they do not fit within a godly picture of marriage.
0:34.4	Today we're answering questions from our audience.
0:36.6	We've gotten several questions
0:37.8	about gaslighting, blame, narcissism, and emotional abuse. And these issues are all very
0:43.5	complex. So they're not things we can fully speak to on the podcast. I want to get that out
0:48.6	me open right away because this is not a substitute for a counseling session. Although Dr. Kim
0:53.0	has done this in counseling, it is just not something you can put blanket
0:56.8	statements on.
0:57.8	Rather, our focus today is trying to help shed light on these issues and help you find
1:01.4	what your next step would be.
1:03.4	So listen knowing that we want to help you.
1:05.9	We want your marriage to thrive.
1:07.0	But you also may need to find a counselor to help you work through these things in a really full and thorough manner that we can't get into.
1:14.7	So Dr. Kim, in the recent episodes where we shared Kathy's story, she mentioned something
1:21.7	really helpful to know that marriage counseling does not work for an abusive marriage.
1:27.4	So if not marriage counseling, where should someone start in that situation?
1:32.4	Yes, and too, if you have not listened to Kathy's story,
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