Holding on to the (Sad) Past

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4.4 • 6K Ratings

🗓️ 10 April 2025

⏱️ 9 minutes

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Summary

Rebecca is confusing love with fear and staying in a dead-end relationship instead of forging a healthier path. Call 1-800-DR-LAURA / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment at DrLaura.com

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0:00.0	Thanks for listening to my call of the day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through
0:06.3	Friday from 2 to 5 p.m. Eastern Time on Sirius XM Triumph 11. Rebecca, welcome to the program.
0:14.3	Thank you, Dr. Laura. You're welcome. What can I help you with?
0:25.6	First of all, I'd like to say thank you for being on the air still.
0:30.4	I listened to you since my kids were little, and you taught me through a lot when they were infants.
0:31.0	So thank you.
0:38.3	But I'm calling now or wanting to talk to you because I have been married for 26 years. I have my kids are in college now.
0:41.3	My head, bottom line is I love my husband, but he is a habitual cheater,
0:47.3	has been almost through the entire marriage, whether it's just talking to other women,
0:52.3	going on dates and then me finding out later, and it's just talking to other women, going on dates, and then me finding out
0:55.5	later. And it's gone to the point where he told me pretty much he doesn't know if he's in
1:02.5	love with me anymore. And he... I do have a tiny question for you. I do have a tiny question for you.
1:10.3	It's kind of a tiny one. Love, to me,
1:15.5	is defined not by dependency, fears. It's defined by awe, admiration, and respect.
1:29.6	That's love.
1:31.8	The feeling that keeps some people in situations that may seem appalling to others is not love.
1:42.3	People can call it love, but that doesn't make it so. That's a kind of sad dependency,
1:49.6	a wishfulness, and stuff that isn't concrete or real. And as we all know anyway, if you want to
1:57.8	persist in saying you love him, then I would say love is not enough to have a
2:02.9	quality life with somebody. Clearly in this case, it doesn't warrant he doesn't respect you.
2:09.5	He's not caring about you. He's not thoughtful about you. He's abusive to you. And I wouldn't
2:16.6	say on the other side, the feeling and response is love.
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