Men need sex, and it's their wife's job to give it to them unconditionally whenever they want it,

or these husbands will come under satanic attack.

Stunningly, that's the message contained in many Christian marriage books,

yet research shows that instead of increasing intimacy in

marriages, messages like these are promoting abuse. Welcome to the Roy's Report, a podcast dedicated to

reporting the truth and restoring the church. I'm Julie Roy's. And what you're about to hear is an

eye-opening talk by Sheila Ray

Gregor at our latest Restore Conference. Sheila is an author and podcaster who's done extensive

research on evangelicalism and sex. And what she's discovered is that many evangelical books

teach an unbiblical message that men are incapable of not objectifying women. And instead of

training men to control their urges, these books teach that women must save these men. If a husband

struggles with porn, for example, it's his wife's job to give him more sex so he can go cold turkey.

If a husband is abusive to his wife, it's his wife's job to give him more sex so he can go cold turkey. If a husband is abusive to his wife,

it's his wife's job to pray the abuse away. And if you're a single woman, it's your job to dress

in such a way that your body never intoxicates a man. With messages like these, is it any wonder

that abuse victims often feel like it's their fault if someone hurts them?

Is it any wonder that pastors like John MacArthur can convince wives that it's their duty to stay with a man that abuses them and their children?

As Sheila explains in this important talk, the abuse that's rampant in the church is just a symptom of this toxic teaching so prevalent

in evangelicalism. And unless we address this false teaching, we'll never solve the problem of

abuse. So I'm very excited to share Sheila's eye-opening talk with you. But first, I want to thank

the sponsors of this podcast, Judson University,

and Mark Orta Barrington. If you're looking for a top-ranked Christian University,

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